Marriage may not be for everyone but it certainly is a very serious life decision. Below are the things that every woman needs to experience before she gets married:
1. Fall hopelessly, helplessly, madly in “love”
Every woman needs to know what it feels like to be “in love” (although this is more like infatuation). She needs to know what it feels like to wake up every morning and the flowers smell sweeter and the sound of birds chirping is like music to her ears.
2. Get your heart broken
The sad part of mistaking infatuation for love is that it eventually ends up in heart-break. The good news is that when a woman’s heart breaks, she will realize that she can pick herself up and she will be stronger and wiser.
Every woman needs to experience the freedom of travel. Maybe it’s just across country and to a few states or maybe it is across continents. Whatever it is, it can be a wonderful journey of self discovery. It is also more simple when a woman is single because once marriage and children come along, it may not always be as simple, easy or affordable.
4. Get an Education
When you tie the knot, make sure it is after you get a good education. First of all, research has shown that the people with the highest rates of failed marriages and relationships are those with the least education and the highest rate of poverty. Also, getting an education gets more complicated after getting a husband and family.
5. Have an 0-r-gasm
Get familiar with how things work “down there”. Don’t be shy about discovering yourself and what it takes to please you.
6. Party all night or all weekend with your female friends
Being in a great marriage or relationship is good but make sure you have your fun and you know how to enjoy the company of other women.
7. Get Clear About who you are
Get clear about who you are and what you want out of life. Know what you value and what your core beliefs are. When you join your life with another person you have to know who you are in order to know if you’re with the right person.
8. Get clear about what you want
Do you want to live in a city or in the country? Are you open to living with family members or is it a deal breaker? Answer these important questions before you get married and make sure you and the person you’re marrying are on the same page.
9. Decide if you want kids
Many women assume that they want kids but some women just either don’t want children or really shouldn’t have children. Make sure you think seriously about it and make sure you marry someone who feels the same way as you do.
10. Decide if you want to get married
Don’t get married because of societal pressures. Marriage can be great but it is not for everyone and it is important to know if marriage is really something that you want.
Nomalanga helps Black women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , a former College Professor and Mrs. Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s Facebook page or Follow her on Twitter