A Man’s View: 5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Be Surprised if Denzel Cheated on His Wife

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by X – Man

The recent report that Denzel Washington may have not been a perfect husband has surprised a lot of people.  Denzel has always carefully cultivated the image of the unassuming family man, as if he never even realized that millions of women around the world wanted to sleep with him.  But the images being reportedly shopped of him smooching up close with a blonde bombshell have shocked the world, and it all came out right as Denzel was on the cover of Ebony Magazine for having one of the strongest marriages in all of Hollywood.

If this is true, I wouldn’t be surprised by any of this.  Most people want to believe that there is a perfect marriage out there just waiting for them, where nothing goes wrong and men never make mistakes.  That’s like the man who spends his life searching for the woman who has never had an erotic thought about another man in her life.   If you’re looking for that marriage, then stay asleep, because you’ll only see it in your dreams.  Here are five reasons you shouldn’t be surprised if it turns out that Denzel did cheat on his wife, Pauletta:

1) Because he is an international sex symbol:  Chris Rock always says that a man’s faithfulness comes down to the number of options.  If women are throwing it at him every single day, everywhere he goes, he’s probably going to take it at some point.  This is really true if his wife is getting on his nerves and the other women are young and beautiful.  You think it’s all about will power, but it’s more complicated than that.  Denzel had plenty of options, so there is a good chance that he’s taken one of them.

2) Because things happen over the course of a 30 year marriage:  Marriages have ups and downs, and as Denzel said in his interview with Ebony, “People give up too easily.”  Young people don’t have half the heart it takes to grind it out for three decades, as Denzel has done with his wife.  The first sign of infidelity or discomfort and they are gone.  That’s not going to get you through 30 years together, I promise.

3) Because cheating doesn’t always mean that the person doesn’t love you:  For a lot of women, what you do s*xually is connected to how you feel emotionally.  Maybe you enjoy s*x more if you are close to the person or are more willing to cheat if your emotional needs aren’t being met.  Men aren’t usually like that.  A lot of men want other women just because they are there.  They don’t always need to feel close to the person they sleep with, and don’t always need to have something wrong in their current relationship for them to want something physical on the side.  The funny part is that a man might have a lot of physical relationships but never want to leave his wife, mainly because she is the only one who has the keys to his heart.  So, the other women are always second to the woman at home.

4) Because almost nothing is what it seems to be:   People love to pretend that their marriages are wonderful, then you find out that they aren’t after they go to divorce court.  Hollywood actors love to send out images to the world of their perfect lives, only to have the image shattered when you find out that many of these marriages are scams. Don’t believe the hype, since marriage can be a serious grind.

5) Because Denzel appears to be dedicated to his wife:  Denzel is one of the most wanted men in the world.  He could have left his wife years ago for a dedicated 25-year old who worships the ground he walks on. Yea, it would have cost him money to leave, but he can afford it.  Instead, he chose to stand by the mother of his children because he loves her deeply, dedicating his life to one relationship when he may have wanted something else.  So, even though we can’t say for certain if he was faithful or not, we can definitely say that he loves this woman to death.  That’s what makes him a good man.

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  1. Men who cheat are scum period there is NO excuse for it EVER ! Women who cheat are scum NO excuse for it EVER . When you cheat you break trust if you don’t have that you have NOTHING . Anyone who would put up with it does not value themself . Its sad and pretty pathetic.

    • That is a very myopic point of view. To judge sometime scum because of an inappropriate action is as appalling as the inappropriate act, and that kind of judgement can drive one toward inappropriate actions.

  2. Kimberly SoularPowered Wilson on

    Denzel said in a Barbra Walters interview one time that he had not been an angel. I believe his words were( She might leave me, but I would never leave her) or something to that affect.

  3. Sad to say, but the article is right….Sleeping with someone never means that you love that person….being a foundation for a person shows your love….Regard for feelings/emotions perpetuates love…. People use the word loosely when it means so much more….

  4. #5–yes, Denzel APPEARS to be dedicated to his wife, but then again maybe he isn’t. Maybe it’s part of his Hollywood image and an illusion created by his people. Hollywood marriages are rarely what they seem to be. Denzel is a handsome man, but what makes women really swoon over him is that he “appears to be a dedicated husband.” Women love that in a man.

    • 30 years is a very long time to try and uphold a Hollywood image for the sake of the public. Not one time during the 30 years did this couple split up, cut up, or show out in public or have anything like that publicize. We know the media would have eaten it up if it had happened. My hat goes off to anyone who has endured the ups and downs of marriage for the length of time the Washington’s have…I’m working on 23 years of marriage, and I can honestly say, through it all we love one another very much but it was not always an easy road, but it is worth it.

      • Patti Peoples on

        I agree with you. I just keep looking for the “Cinderella-Fairytale” that at my age, I know full-well DOES NOT exist. I’ve even told my daughter, if or when she marries, not to leave a husband who is good in every other area, over adultery, unless there is some physical ramifications. Even then, therapy may be able to help. I knew about Denzel for about 18 mos. but, his “paramour” was another star.

        I had a “physically-abusive” marriage which was a surprise to me and everyone else. My ex-husband passed away, 4 yrs. ago; ironically 6 months after my mother. The one thing I was planning to ask him, had I had the opportunity, was “why”? We liked all of the same things, books, movies, but we had an
        issue right at the end, about our last child, a son. I bravely stated my position, and then I left.

      • I agree with you. I just can’t let go of the one thing therapists counsel us women against, the “Cinderella-Fairytale”! I think Pauletta is sophisticated enough to let him “run his head in hornet’s nest” as my mother used to say. These days,
        adultery is worrisome healthwise, otherwise stay put.
        Demand “RESPECT” for the family home, make sure that
        the assets accumulated and passed on–are not disturbed. The only other thing I’ll sat about Denzel
        is, I’m surprised he “”came-out” while his mother is still alive.

  5. Men cheat, PERIOD!

    Women cheat also!

    Being married changes nothing about their behavior or their fidelity to their spouses.

    • Agreed. The point of this article wasn’t to justify Denzel’s behavior, or any man who cheats; that is what people are taking from the info. The point is that at some point, no matter how long you’re married or how short, men will leak out a desire to cheat. I am speaking as a woman: Any woman standing behind this “my man would never cheat” or “I’d totally be able to tell” mentality are only robbing themselves of truth. This type of truth hurts, but the many long-term relationships we understand as “great” have had a fair share of turmoil and deception. It just comes with the territory of being involved with the same face, the same body, and same mind for a long time.

  6. Patti Peoples on

    Great article. The only thing I would add is that when Denzel first got his starring-role, it was in the movie “Biko” where he portrayed the life of South African’s revolutionary-hero, who was killed, during the “apartheid-system” was still the law. At that time, Pauletta was the “star” so-to-speak. She was a concert-pianist, she had a career with much promise, but Denzel did so well in “Biko” that critics took notice. At that time, Denzel did not have the “award-winning,female-magnet” smile! Not too long afterward, he got his cosmetic-dentistry; and the rest is history. A similar case, more recently is that of singers, Angie Stone and her early tryst, with D’angelo. She made a comment fairly well known, saying that “when she was with him, he didn’t look like he did when he made his “How Does It Feel” song/video” that showed him nude as far down as decently acceptable. Maybe, Denzel has forgotten about those days, most likely he’d just say “that was then, and this now.” It’s a common way to think.

  7. I do not understand. Cheating is cheating and if you cheat you are not standing up to your word and the trust we should have in any relationship.If I give you my word I feel that you can go to sleep. I Got it, no if’s and or but’s because I am HAILE.Punto.All this stuff can be traced all the way back to European Slavery.You cheat because you are afraid to tell the truth.

  8. Leslie Dixon Jr. on

    Who didn't know this in 1995? Oh yea all the people saying No Denzel would never do that…….#commonknowledge

  9. We live in an imperfect and sinful world ruled by Satan… people fall short, that is not an excuse for cheating but it is a reality..

  10. Myself. I can't do it. Cheating is uncivilized. Why be in a relationship if that's the case. Wrong is wrong. It is what it with Denzel. We can give opinions, but they're pointless. I loss a friend because of infidelity. Seeing what he did to his lady at the time. She's serving a life sentence for killing him & the woman he was cheating on her with. It made me change my views about relationships. I've been cheated on before, so I know how it feels. Every relationship I had I ended it, so I don't know about being dumped. I say this I prefer to be in a relationship with a woman who is substantial not submissive. IJS

  11. I heard somewhere that excuses are tools of the incompetent, that build bridges to nowhere and monuments of nothingness. Those who specialize in them seldom amount to anything (and often have to give up half). Look at his beautiful wife. If he strays and she stays, she further validates the incompetence of so manyen and women who spew counterfeit vows in formal clothing just to violate them for a piece of flesh. Peace and blessings.

  12. Hollywood types are driven by three basic things. MONEY POWER AND SEX. the desire for men to be famous is based on the fact that fame can bring MORE MONEY, MORE POWER, AND MORE SEX. THE 5 reasons that Denzel is 99.9999 percent GUARANTEED to have multiple partners, is becuase, 1, he is a international high paid star, SO HE CAN, 2, he is an international high paid star, SO HE CAN, 3, he is an international high paid star, SO HE CAN, 4, he is an international high paid star, SO HE CAN, and 5? REPEAT ONE THROUGH FOUR! Wake up people.

  13. See how we react to celebrities, like we know them personally enough decide when they should be lifted up or knocked down. Amazing.

    There is an expression in show biz that any publicity is good publicity. Those pictures could have very well been a staged publicity stunt. And it’s working quite well. Denzel is on your mind and relevant again. Plus he’s got a new movie out soon. See how that all works.

    Some are like sheep, for real!

  14. Michelle Clark on

    Im not surprised. Thought I heard something about him years ago. But like the article says, lots of things happen in 30 yrs.

  15. Since when does Hollywood send messages of perfect lives? They change partners like. 5yr holds on crack playing musical chairs. He just proved that in a sleazy environment he's not above " monkey see monkey do". And, yes a cheating does mean the person doesn't love you and if they do its certainly to a different degree than you're thinking and would like! You have to break off a piece of yourself emotionally to convince the other person its real…do that enough and its love deposited there too! Not to count the money that may leave out of the house and the constantl lying to cover it up…love my a**!

  16. Adrienna Turner on

    Faithful, is it going out the door like everything else? He was an iconic figure in Hollywood and even with Black marriage(s). Still love Denzel!

  17. Love Esteban on

    Les many say that because so many have an over romanticized notion and projection about marriage— an institution that is neither all good nor all bad. It simply what we make of ourselves through its context which is forever changing, because people are changing.

  18. Michael Anthony Taylor on

    "Most people want to believe that there is a perfect marriage out there just waiting for them, where nothing goes wrong and men never make mistakes." <– Because it's a given that women don't make mistakes.

  19. We are all human and none of us are perfect. Those that perpetrate perfection are full of hypocrisy. Brother Denzel and his wife are not cut from the same cloth as those that can not endure such a trial. Peace & Blessing to him and his wife..

  20. We are all human and none of us are perfect. Those that perpetrate perfection are full of hypocrisy. Brother Denzel and his wife are not cut from the same cloth as those that can not endure such a trial. Peace & Blessing to him and his wife..

  21. A "strong marriage" is not the same thing as a problem free marriage. A strong marriage means that you take the problems in stride and find a viable resolution for both parties. While Denzel may have had an affair or more, apparently he and his wife have resolved the issues to their satisfaction. Incidentally, most people think everyone is going to cheat sooner or later, so I guess the question is not if someone will cheat, but how much cheating are we willing to tolerate. The rampant transmittal of STD's, including HIV is so prevalent, my advice is to stay at home and keep your mate safe, because in my opinion, that should be the primary reason for not cheating, to keep your mate safe.

  22. Gayle PrecioustoGod Clark on

    I am greatly disturbed by x-man's thoughts. Denzel CHEATED on his wife and there is a price to pay. It's called DIVORCE and ALIMONY. Yes, Denzel is an attractive black man, but no attractive than a billion other good looking men in the world. Yes, it's true he is a celebrity and rich too…how many women wouldn't desire to be the wife of a attractive, powerful and rich man. But HE IS MARRIED, which means off-the-market, spoken for, so he entered into a martial contract and he broke the agreement. His wife gave him 30 years of her life to BUILD a greater life together with him. She has blessed and enriched his life with the things that money cannot buy. They owe their blessings to God, and to one another, to their children and their grandchildren. If his wife could KEEP HERSELF for him he was able to KEEP HISELF for her. BOTTOMLINE! You (we) (people) can't have everything we desire. Not even if your name is DENZEL WASHINGTON. Can their marriage survive? Well, with God everything is possible. But honestly, WHY SHOULD IT HAVE TO MERELY SURVIVE instead of flourishing.

  23. Why did this have to re-surface? This could bring back memories that Denzel and his wife have grown from and moved onward. Let’s come out of the valley to the mountaintop, Kinfolk!

  24. Bullshit bullshit, he still cheated on his wife and she probably faithful to a fault. men can sleep with anything with a hole and be considered cool. a woman sleep with him and who ever she wants and she is considered a slut, hoe, trap, flop, good for nothing. what the fuck is up with that.

  25. Von McIntyre on

    it's already been reported he and sanai lathan had an affair years ago…. not sure how true that is either though

  26. Let's be realistic for a change. White women aren't the only women that are gold diggers, and the same bullshit a Black man could go through with a White woman would be no different with a Black woman or any other woman for that matter. Don't let your ignorance wear you thin.

  27. This article is `BULLCRAP Human beings stray and the choice is your’s whether you will stay or not stay LOVE has very little (If anything) to do with it–some want their cake , cookies , meat, and all other Groceries—it’s called “THE HUMAN ANIMAL”…..and his appetite —–The eyes`are always bigger than the stomach—- once most get to know the whole of what they see—-The Hunt most likely continues.

  28. Pretty good article but it sounds like writer can't believe a man can be faithful in a marriage "he stayed…even if he wanted something else." Well I'm sure Denzel is right where he wants to be and had "what he wanted" because that's what ppl do: keep what they want and throw away the trash. Just because someone is younger and beautiful doesn't mean a man automatically would like to have that ~ some men have brains character and integrity and are fooled by youth and pretty faces! But if rumors are true I do agree that having women constantly throw themselves at you increases chances that one day you will fall ~and he may have because he's human and makes mistakes. I just happen to know many that don't cheat and of course Denzel was def looked up to for being in that category. If he fell he's still admired for how he respects and loves his wife.

  29. What a asshole you are Denzel. You cheat on your pretty bombshell wife with a ruddy red (aka white people) TRICK…………..

  30. Gold Diggers are not exclusive to one race. What you find in one race you will find in another. there fore we are the human race beautifully created in many beautiful complexions. Stop making it about color. there good woman and there are scandalous woman and the same for men in all complexions.

  31. Corey Phomveha Sr. The ignorant comments from a lot of black women are staggering. Look at the former Mrs.Wade on tv, pretending to be homeless because even though she was getting 25k a month in alimony – a month! – she wanted child support for kids she didn't have the custody of. Feminism has made all women potential gold diggers, and those who pretend otherwise are the biggest thieves.

  32. Well, Denzel can't be that Good, (reason #5), if he's cheatin' on his wife! Whether he loves his wife or not! I say, "Girlfriend needs to rob, and then divorce his a$$!"

  33. I agree with all the comments especially Chris Rock…in fact in that line of business its expected at some point to have its fault(s). Its not easy to be a role model when we are only human with rules of behavior, with an appetite for some snacks. He only loves his wife and family, that is the strength of their relationship that survives the test of time.

  34. Denzel is a man and men !like!woman of all hues, and are tempted at times to try out what is available to them!!! Even when they are married!! It goes against God’s laws but sometimes when things at home are not “a-one” you may yield to a temptation despite your moral teachings and your mind stands up against your loins, and sometimes this temporary distraction manifests itself into action!! can a man have his cake and eat it to?? No not really but, he can try there is no perfect man in this world if a man thinks it he has done it already!! That is in the Bible check it out, most men I know are guilty of thinking about it even if they don’t indulge in infidelity!!

  35. Denzel is a man and men !like!woman of all hues, and are tempted at times to try out what is available to them!!! Even when they are married!! It goes against God’s laws but sometimes when things at home are not “a-one” you may yield to a temptation despite your moral teachings and your mind stands up against your loins, and sometimes this temporary distraction manifests itself into action!! can a man have his cake and eat it to?? No not really but, he can try there is no perfect man in this world if a man thinks it he has done it already!! That is in the Bible check it out, most men I know are guilty of thinking about it even if they don’t indulge in infidelity!!

  36. Denzel is a man and men !like!woman of all hues, and are tempted at times to try out what is available to them!!! Even when they are married!! It goes against God’s laws but sometimes when things at home are not “a-one” you may yield to a temptation despite your moral teachings and your mind stands up against your loins, and sometimes this temporary distraction manifests itself into action!! can a man have his cake and eat it to?? No not really but, he can try there is no perfect man in this world if a man thinks it he has done it already!! That is in the Bible check it out, most men I know are guilty of thinking about it even if they don’t indulge in infidelity!!

  37. Denzel is a man and men !like!woman of all hues, and are tempted at times to try out what is available to them!!! Even when they are married!! It goes against God’s laws but sometimes when things at home are not “a-one” you may yield to a temptation despite your moral teachings and your mind stands up against your loins, and sometimes this temporary distraction manifests itself into action!! can a man have his cake and eat it to?? No not really but, he can try there is no perfect man in this world if a man thinks it he has done it already!! That is in the Bible check it out, most men I know are guilty of thinking about it even if they don’t indulge in infidelity!!

  38. Denzel is a man and men !like!woman of all hues, and are tempted at times to try out what is available to them!!! Even when they are married!! It goes against God’s laws but sometimes when things at home are not “a-one” you may yield to a temptation despite your moral teachings and your mind stands up against your loins, and sometimes this temporary distraction manifests itself into action!! can a man have his cake and eat it to?? No not really but, he can try there is no perfect man in this world if a man thinks it he has done it already!! That is in the Bible check it out, most men I know are guilty of thinking about it even if they don’t indulge in infidelity!!

  39. Denzel is a man and men !like!woman of all hues, and are tempted at times to try out what is available to them!!! Even when they are married!! It goes against God’s laws but sometimes when things at home are not “a-one” you may yield to a temptation despite your moral teachings and your mind stands up against your loins, and sometimes this temporary distraction manifests itself into action!! can a man have his cake and eat it to?? No not really but, he can try there is no perfect man in this world if a man thinks it he has done it already!! That is in the Bible check it out, most men I know are guilty of thinking about it even if they don’t indulge in infidelity!!

  40. Paulette helped Denzel become what and who he is today. She was the one on Broadway and acting! So what if he's the most wanted mannin the world??? 25 yr old, dedicated??? You logicbis stupidity! Please! Cheating is Cheating, I don't care how WANTED he is Are we to value money, fame, over trust, values, and morales NOW?

  41. Yvette Feinberg on

    I use to think LOVE was forever. As a couple you grow together or grow away from each other. I would rather have RESPECT any day then LOVE. When a person respects another person they will not do anything to hurt them physically or emotionally. People are to quick to say they LOVE SOMEONE, when they really are in LUST with them. I love the RELATIONSHIP that Paula and Denzel have. Its clear that he has a lot of RESPECT for her. that’s my two-cents…

  42. Linda Washington on

    Everyone has a choice,to cheat or not to cheat. There’s no excuse for cheating only a choice. Each person, man or woman has to make a choice. Marriage is not to be taken lightly according to God’s word but even those that know the word have been tempted.But cheating is done because of choice not reason. You have to look at yourself on the inside as to why you cheat, and each couple has to decide how they will work it out.Just like love is a choice so is infidelity.

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