Marriage is hard work. It requires focus, communication, and most of all love. These days it seems like no one is willing to do those things that it takes to keep a marriage together. Almost half of all marriages are ending in divorce. People are content to live eternally single. They don’t want a partner, or if they have one, they do not make that forever commitment. This change has researchers wondering what it is about modern day marriage that has people running for the hills.
Some researchers feel that it is too easy for people to get divorced these days so they will break up over one little fight that years ago would have been resolved between the couple. Now all you have to do is drop a little money, sign some papers, and you are on to your next problem. One of the main theories though is that as time has gone on our expectations of what marriage should be like have been raised so high that it would be very difficult to satisfy those expectations.
The problem with having high expectations is that you become so dependent on your partner that you lose your independence. Many have different requirements that they feel that a spouse should fill such as what kind of job they have, how much money they bring in, and whether they help around the house. If these requirements are not met, the marriage becomes an unhappy one. Couples are relying more and more on the actions of their partner and are not thinking about their actions as well.
There are solutions to this modern-day marriage crisis but it all starts at home. If you truly want to remain married, it is time to drop these expectations and lower the bar just a bit. Think about what you need to survive and use those as the expectations for the marriage. From there on out anything that is done past the survival skills seems like the partner is going above and beyond and makes for a much happier marriage.