Getting married is a big deal. There are so many different things that you have to deal with such as changing your name. Some women elect to keep their names, others will take their husband’s names, and some will hyphenate both last names. Many years ago taking your husband’s last name was a social custom that not many people deviated from, but these days it is more and more common for the women to keep their last names.
A poll done by HuffPost revealed that 60% of people said that women should change their names after they get married. Facebook and The Daily Beast’s polls showed that 65% of women who were in their twenties and thirties did change their name. The Guardian reported that 10% of people in America thought that not changing your name meant you weren’t as committed to the marriage as you should be.
The debate over the name change could be due to conflicting ideas between becoming one with your partner and Sheryl Sandberg’s “leaning in” theory. Women who are for the name changes feel that it is part of the transition from becoming “me” to “we” when they join their partner in marriage. Others feel that their identity is lost if their last name changes.
Some of the editors of Redbook chimed in on the issue and they all had different things to say:
Tiffany Blackstone said that changing her last name isn’t something that is right for her and her someday husband accepts that.
Sarah Smith says that it is her name and part of her identity so she does not want to change it.
Lori Berger said that she did not want to change her name for personal and professional reasons.
Cris Desposito says that her fiancé wants her to change her name and she has no real attachment to it so she is going to do it.
Singer and actress, Beyonce, kept her name but did a whole tour as “Mrs. Carter”.