Dating A Younger Man May Not Be Such a Good Idea


usher n tamekaMen have been dating women who are young enough to be their daughters and maybe even their granddaughters for generations. Even though some people frown at the idea, it seems to be an acceptable thing in society. Maybe it was the “women’s lib” or just changing times, but women have decided that if men can do it, so can they. While women can certainly date younger men, it may be a better idea, in theory than in actual practice.

The truth is that there is a reason why most men will marry a younger woman, although not necessarily much younger than them. While gender roles have become less rigid, they do still have some significance to many people and making changes like who the older spouse is may not necessarily work.

The following are the reasons why it may not be a good idea for a woman to date a younger man:

1. You may feel like you’re in a time warp.
You grew up with different cartoons, different video games (Atari, anybody?!), different cheesy prom ballads. And it’s a shocker when it first hits you, as Cara Halstead found out. “One day I realized that when I was doing dance routines to the Grease soundtrack, he was just being potty-trained!” But instead of dwelling on your pop-culture chasm, use this as an opportunity to get closer—introduce him to classic movies like Valley Girl and open your mind to the musical poetry of Poison.

2. His friends are 20-something guys.
Even if your young man happens to be sophisticated, chances are at least a few of his buddies aren’t as fully evolved. So don’t be surprised when your man drags you a kegger or takes off for a paint-ball weekend. Tip: Roll with it. Accepting each other’s pals — no matter how weird or annoying — is part of the older-woman/younger-man pact.

3. Finally, they may not be on your spawn schedule. Baby lust has busted up more than one of these romances. Just ask Lisa Cohn, 47, of Portland, OR. “For four years, I dated a guy who was five years younger than me. I was drawn to his good looks and great sense of humor,” she recalls. “But my biological clock was ticking wildly, and that freaked him out. Eventually, we broke up.” Other young dudes want children—but not with someone who has been there, done that. “I was recently dating a younger man who obviously knew that I had been married and had a child,” says Kris Lyndon, 40, of Phoenix. “After a while, he told me he wanted to get serious—but he’d rather experience marriage and pregnancy with a woman who was also experiencing it for the first time.”

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  1. This sounds like a crock of nonsense. Men that date younger women have the same issues. I don’t care about his friends I don’t date them. Some older men are boring and have shall we say “dysfunction”. There is a 20 year age difference between us and I don’t care.

    Loving it,

  2. This article is absolutely ridiculous. I usually date younger because men my age or older are boring. There is no way that I am going to settle. My mom dated younger (he 18/she 33). They married. My mom just passed away at age 63.. he was right there with his wife. IJS.

  3. Yolanda Ford on

    This really could gave been a very informative, soul searching or informational article…but it had a lot of wholes in it. There was no meaningful research, and the comments along with stories / real life experiences should have been in this article. It was short, pointless and written unprofessionally. An insult to one’s intelligence? Who wrote this????.Pay me and i can write a more thought invoke, conversational, non- opinionated piece.

  4. Blackphoenix on

    I agree with all of the sentiments and opinions in response to this article. I have always daterd younger men and I will say this, in my experience younger men offer the comparable sexual endurance and stimulation needed or desired. Secondly, most oyunger men I have had discussions withonthis particular topic willl say they would date an older woman because she ordinarily knows exactly what she wants, need or desire in life whereas most younger women or women their ages have alot of drama.
    So for those Cougars out there, do you…..keep it real and enjoy!!!

  5. I dated a man 15 years my junior, we were together 18 years. We had a wonderful time together, he was killed in a car accident and I will alwasys remember and cherish the wonderful times we had together. He taught me things and I taught him things. It’s not about age for some people, it’s how you mesh together. If I had not met my younger guy I wouldn’t have all the wonderful memories. Life is too short, if that’s what you are attracted to and if it works go for it.

  6. I’m only speaking for myself but what do I look like dating someone half my age. I’m 42 years old. I refuse to date anyone that makes me feel old enough to be their mother.

  7. I’m presently dating a lady that I’m four years younger than and our interactions are worth preserving. We enjoy ever movement of our lives…

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