Desperate or Determined? Woman “Earning” Her Engagement Ring By Making Her Boyfriend Sandwiches

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downloadBy: Krystle Crossman

Stephanie Smith is a reporter for the New York Post. She has recently grabbed the attention of culinary masters such as Emeril and Michael White because of an unusual deal with her boyfriend, Eric. Every morning Eric would wake up, ask Stephanie how long she had been awake, and then joked that she had not made him a sandwich yet. Smith says, to him, sandwiches are like hugs, kisses, and even s*x. He says “Sandwiches are love” and that you can’t get a sandwich filled with love from a deli.

One day Smith finally broke down and made him a simple turkey and Swiss on wheat bread with lettuce and Dijon mustard. He wolfed down the sandwich and claimed that it was delicious. Then he said, “Honey, you’re 300 sandwiches away from an engagement ring!” Smith wasn’t sure if he was serious or not. She thought about it, realizing that their relationship revolved around food, especially since he was a gourmet cook. They met at a restaurant and from there he began to cook her an assortment of delicious meals.

Amid a ton of criticism from her friends, she scoured books for sandwich recipes and called friends to see what they had. If it was going to take 300 sandwiches for him to see that she would be a good wife, so be it. Many have berated her for setting the feminist movement back and him for being chauvinistic. But she decided that she was going to blog about the journey.

At this point she is at around sandwich number 176. She has been making sandwiches for every meal, but they are always different. Eric smiles and says thank you each time she brings him a sandwich.

What do you think? Is he $exist and is she setting the women’s rights movement back?

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    • I disagree with the Sally Hemming’s comment. You should have said a man that have no intentions of you being his wife and leaving you with a house full of fatherless children and in proverty. Now that is just sexist and crazy.

  1. that’s just wrong, Jamizzi. If she wants to make samiches for her man, why not? It doesn’t matter “what” he is; it matters “who” he is. If they love each other, what the heck is wrong with a sandwich a day? I’m sure that was something they joke about all the time. Sheesh! So what, he’s white. Don’t do that to the sister. Aren’t most of us judged by what we are instead of who we are? Why are you on that bandwagon?

    • WOMEN RIGHTS WAS FOUGHT TO KEEP THE WOMAN OUT OF THE KITCHEN
      OR FOR EQUAL PAY AND POSITIONS.HIS COMMENT WAS DISRESPECTFUL TO WOMAN AND FOR THOSE THAT DONT KNOW THE STRUGGLE OF AN
      AMERICAN WOMEN RIGHTS,SHE WILL CONTINUE TO GET DISRESPECTED,AND
      A WOMAN THAT ALLOW A MAN TO DO SO WILL NOT RECIEVE OUT OF HIM
      WHAT SHE DESERVES.THE FACT THAT SHE ALLOWED THE COMMENT MEANS
      THAT HE WILL NEVER RESPECT HER BECAUSE THAT COMMENT SHOULD HAVE BEEN THE FINAL BENEDICTION FOR THEIR RELATIONSHIP,BLACKWOMEN HAS THE
      HIGHEST RATE OF NOT BEING MARRIED,AND THIS IS ONE OF THE REASON
      MEN DONT MARRY YOU BECAUSE YOU FALL FOR ANYTHING AS IF YOU ARE
      IGNORANT DESPERATE AND SLOOOOOOOW. READ A BOOK AND LEARN WHEN
      A MAN IS TRYING TO TELL YOU THAT HE IS NOT INTERESTED ANYMORE LIKE
      THIS WHITE GENTLEMAN IN THIS ARTICLE.HE GETS IT THAT THIS BLACKGIRL
      DONT HAVE A CLUE.LET ME TELL YOU WHATS GONNA HAPPEN,SHE GONNA
      FIX 300 SANDWICHES,AND THEM HE IS GONNA DUMP HER FOR WHITE BRUNETTE.

  2. Jah Larry Dread on

    Is he Sexist? On a scale of 1 to 10…I will give him an 9 towards “No”. Why? “They met at a restaurant and from there he began to cook her a assortment of delicious meals”.

    Setting the women’s rights movement back? Hell No! Every decade women have a new slogan: “It’s the 70’s”, I’m a lady of the 80’s, I’m a 90’s girl, and “It’s the millennium. “ Which each decade women are declaring some sort of independence. Last year in a Howard University classroom there was a discussion on women has to give up shivery for some of this independence. It has been often said by many women to men, “You can’t have your cake and eat it too.” “They met at a restaurant and from there he began to cook her a assortment of delicious meals”. Well.

    I believe there are studies that reflect the more women become independent the less likely she will find a suitable mate, this maybe more-so with black women.

    Do men have a slogan? Not that I know of. In the photo I can see that this man is white. Ok. Many of black men we eat we sleep. Ladies, if you want to keep a black man around? Found one that works or making a strong effort to find work. Then try making him a meal every once in awhile, keep fresh batteries in the remote, and a friendly conversation when comes over instead of nagging!

    “They met at a restaurant and from there he began to cook her a assortment of delicious meals”. Oh an assortment take time and talent…what’s a simple sandwich?

  3. I guess it’s a nice enough gesture, if he’s going to uphold his end if the bargain. I mean what happens if she can only create 250 sandwiches; he does want different sandwiches. I personally would’ve told him where he could go.

  4. There’s many ways one could look at this… One might ask… If her man were a brother??? would she even be making him sandwiches.

  5. From watching the both of them on the “Today Show” this morning, it was really meant as a joke between the two and she wrote about it. He stated that he does most of the cooking and he was going to marry her anyway even If she had never made one sandwich, so I would say it is neither of the following: Determined or desperate! Just a woman having fun with her man and talking about it. We make a big deal out of nothing all of the time!

    • U are soooo right it really isn’t a big deal….. my husband which is black propose eight times… i told him if he clean the entire house and keep it clean for one day… i would marry him….. we been married three years.

  6. It’s amazing to me, that we as a people would consider to reduce a love story to anything other than pure and simple love. No, we would much rather seek out some twisted and demeaning, totally unrelated issues and create ugliness. Perception is everything – you should have yours cheched.

  7. Sherrie Chapman on

    No, its NOT sexist. She is playing his game to get who she wants. Love comes in many forms. She is just doing something others have not done, but all woem have done something to get their man.

    Congratulations!

  8. That is outstanding! The fact that she is actively looking for new recipes is great.
    The man appreciates sandwiches and she is delivering.
    Sounds like he cooks for her also. After the 300th samich I would b happy to marry her.
    U women betta wtch the Larry Allen nfl hall of fame induction speech and get it right.

  9. Let the woman do what she wants to do.. It’s really their business, if she wants to be an old school wife so be it.

    I do think this is a bit silly but, hey who doesn’t do silly things to show their love for one another. My ex used to do things like that for me, he used to make these awesome sandwiches and oodles of noodles for me. It was always delicious.

  10. Leave this beautiful couple alone. It is their own personal love thing. I agree with “oh really” Leave them alone. I find it refreshing. At least it’s not a black man screaming B___ch, get up and make me some food!!!

  11. Ricki Stevenson on

    I think she is showing love for her sweetie!
    He began cooking gourmet meals for her first.
    He didn’t ask for a different sandwich everyday.
    That’s what she has chosen to create!
    As to those who commented about Sally Hemings
    I suggest you read Sister Barbara Chase-Riboud’s
    novel, “Sally Hemings” about her 38 year
    relationship with Thomas Jefferson that began
    in Paris in 1786. She and her brother were free
    on French soil and didn’t have to go back to
    The US. The WHY may surprise you.

  12. OMG, see that is what is wrong with the world now and people have boring relationships that fail quickly. There is no real romance anymore. I think that that was the cutest thing in the world to incorporate the things they love…food, into a real good playful situation in their relationship. I am the type to never just do the normal gifts, I do things that will be remembered and that means something. Open up guys and gals.

    • Believethepromise on

      Why in the hell does the sister have to shuck and jive and jump through hoops like a damn clown to get an engagement ring? This is buffoonery and it has no place in a loving and mutually respectful relationship. There is nothing remotely cute, endearing and certainly not romantic about this dog and pony show!

  13. I don’t see the issue. I think the point he was making was that she didn’t prepare him food and he always did it for her. He is into food obviously if he’s in culinary arts. They made an interesting little humorous waiver. He’s going to marry her anyway. No man will make a decision because of a sandwich. He just wanted her to do it and is loving his woman’s attention.

    And it’s not a racist or sexist thing so please cut that talk out. It’s getting old and dry now. All men have things they want their significant other to do and vice versa. That just happens to be his. Either way, most women prepare their significant others meals daily anyway. I’m surprised she wasn’t already doing it.

  14. Believethepromise on

    How degrading and humiliating. I’d fix him a knuckle sandwich right in his big nose! This is just sad! She is desperate and he is an insensitive tool! They deserve each other!

  15. I don’t do IR relationships but one thing we can count on, this black woman won’t be pushing out of wedlock babies, her children will be conceived in marriage, soooooooo….I have no problem with her making 300 or how ever many the hell sandwiches she made for her hubby to be…besides she was on the news a few days back and said it was all fun.

  16. He would get 300 quarter bite size sandwiches all at once and sit there and watch him eat them all.afterwards tell him to go to hell.
    Cause my full size sandwiches are for a real man that loves and respect me. He is degrading her as a woman. Just my opinion.

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