People look for their perfect mate. While no one can be “perfect” you can find a mate that is perfect for you. Most of us want someone who is loyal, kind, confident, smart, and funny. However when we can’t seem to find the person we are looking for, we can’t understand why we don’t attract that perfect person for us. The reason for this could be that we are attracting the people who are just like us. If we have low self-esteem, we will tend to attract others with that same quality.
In changing ourselves to fit the qualities of what we want in a mate, we can potentially attract that person. Be the person that you are looking for. Project an air of self-confidence, intelligence, and wit. People who have those same qualities are more likely to gravitate towards you because they feel you have something in common. If you are healthy and fit, you are more likely to attract the same as they will feel that they can go outdoors and go on adventures.
If you are looking for someone with a common interest, go to that environment. For example, if you are looking for someone who loves rock climbing, go to a rock climbing gym. If you want someone who reads, go to the library.
Think positively. People who think positively give off a better energy and will notice that good things happen to them. Giving off a positive attitude shows others that you are happy, and are a good influence to be around. No one wants to be around someone who is going to bring them down all day.
Allow yourself some freedom. Try new things, open yourself to new experiences. If you don’t limit yourself, there is no telling where you will end up. Focus on yourself and the person you want to be, and your partner will find you.