No matter how hard we try to avoid it, disaster strikes at least once in our lives, if not more. It could be a natural disaster that ruins your home or a family member has been lost. Either way you will end up suffering from some grief. It seems sometimes when you are grief-stricken that there isn’t a chance for recovery or a light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. There are some ways however that you can deal with the grief and even turn it into gratefulness.
1. Don’t rush the grieving process. It takes time for the wounds to heal and if you don’t allow yourself the proper amount of time, things may never resolve themselves. There is no timeline and there is no proper amount of time that you should be taking to heal.
2. Don’t compare your pain to others and downplay it. You have your own stuff going on. Yes, others may be suffering as well but in order to go through grief and make it through on your own, you need to realize that this pain is yours and yours alone to deal with. You can bring in support from friends and family but remember not to compare your grief with someone else’s.
3. Cry. Crying is good for the mind, the body, and your grieving soul. People may say that crying is weak, but it actually shows resilience. You are moving on with your life by starting the process of healing.
4. Get support. Family and friends are the people that you are going to need the most right now. Let it all out and tell them how you are feeling. It will make you feel better to be able to talk about what happened with your best friend or share you grief with someone who is going through the same thing.
5. After the grief begins to lift, if you have followed the steps above you, will begin to feel gratitude. Perhaps you are thankful that you all made it out of the disaster alive and well, or that at least the family member who suffered from a painful disease was no longer suffering. Once you have found gratitude in the situation, begin to rebuild.