Are you someone who is always stretching yourself a little too thin, burning the candle at both ends, just because you feel guilty when you tell someone no? Here are four ways to say no without having to feel the guilt.
1. Try to find a less time-consuming alternative. If a friend wants to go to a movie and dinner but you don’t have the time to go out or are too tired to stay out all night, try suggesting that you go out to breakfast or coffee in the morning instead. This way you are no directly saying no while still showing your friend that you want to hang out with them and you are not just blowing them off.
2. Make some scheduling rules for loved ones so that they know when the times they should not bug you are. If you are extremely busy at work when you first get in, let people know not to call or text you until a certain time. If you have to get to sleep by a certain time at night, make sure they know this so that they don’t wake you up or keep asking to go out when you cannot be out that late. You will still be able to talk to them but on your time.
3. Sometimes you just cannot make a commitment to something. You may not have time, may be too tired, or just plain don’t want to do it. Decline what is being offered politely but then offer to reschedule. This way you don’t have to turn an opportunity down completely.
4. Send them away in a loving way. If someone asks you to do a project, or wants to know if you want to be a part of a future business of theirs, or if they are someone who is just unhealthy for you, let them down softly. Tell them that you are sorry, and you don’t think it would be a good fit, then wish them luck in the future.