By Staff Blogger
Marriages are supposed to be life-long, “til death do us part”. These days, the divorce rate is at an all-time high, not only for first marriages, but for second and third marriages as well.
The divorce rate, currently, for people in their first marriages – meaning neither have been married before, is 40-50%. Half of all first time marriages fail. That is a very large number. It is even worse for those who have been married previously. The divorce rate then jumps to 60-67%! That is nothing however compared to those where at least one partner has been married twice before, in which the rate is 70-73%!
So why do people not learn from their mistakes the first time? Some rush right back into marriage or serious relationships without stopping to look at why their previous ones failed.
Here are some things that people should look at more carefully after divorce:
Why did they break up? What role did they play? These are questions that should be answered before moving on. Some people are too optimistic about relationships and move on quickly. Some are afraid of being alone. Others lack basic life skills such as finances and household stuff, so they get married again to avoid these skills.
When people enter into second or third marriages, it becomes more complicated with the involvement of stepchildren and ex-spouses. This is e recipe for a lot of drama that the relationship may not be able to handle.
At the end of the day, it seems that it may be a good idea to make first marriages work, because the data shows that when that first marriage fails, things are more likely to only get worse in subsequent marriages.