Healthy Love: Strong Signs That He is Not “The One”

1

600-00845855Most people grow up dreaming of finding someone to love and some people do realize their dreams. For others, what seemed like the romance of their dreams eventually turn into a big nightmare.  Part of the reason why it sometimes takes a while to realize that the person you thought would be a wonderful partner is actually the main reason for your distress is that everyone put their best foot forward when they first meet a potential partner.

While it is true that most people will start off being on their best behavior, it is still possible to pick up on some signals that may save you some heartache down the road. If you are mindful when you meet a special person, you can observe the things they do and say (without being judgmental) and decide if they are what you’re e looking for…or not.

The following is a list of warning signs for potentially abusive relationships. They are presented as guidelines and cues to pay attention to, not as judgments on the worth of the other person.

Question relationships with partners who:

  • Abuse alcohol or other drugs.
  • Have a history of trouble with the law, get into fights, or break and destroy property.
  • Don’t work or go to school.
  • Blame you for how they treat you, or for anything bad that happens.
  • Abuse siblings, other family members, children or pets.
  • Put down people, including your family and friends, or call them names.
  • Are always angry at someone or something.
  • Try to isolate you and control whom you see or where you go.
  • Nag you or force you to be sexual when you don’t want to be.
  • Cheat on you or have lots of partners.
  • Are physically rough with you (push, shove, pull, yank, squeeze, restrain).
  • Take your money or take advantage of you in other ways.
  • Accuse you of flirting or “coming on” to others or accuse you of cheating on them.
  • Don’t listen to you or show interest in your opinions or feelings. . .things always have to be done their way.
  • Ignore you, give you the silent treatment, or hang up on you.
  • Lie to you, don’t show up for dates, maybe even disappear for days.
  • Make vulgar comments about others in your presence
  • Blame all arguments and problems on you.
  • Tell you how to dress or act.
  • Threaten to kill themselves if you break up with them, or tell you that they cannot live without you.
  • Experience extreme mood swings. . .tell you you’re the greatest one minute and rip you apart the next minute.
  • Tell you to shut up or tell you you’re dumb, stupid, fat, or call you some other name (directly or indirectly).
  • Compare you to former partners.

Source

Share.

1 Comment

Leave A Reply