When women go looking for a man, you would think they would go for a nice guy who is dependable, faithful, and strong. This is not the case however, for many women. Some women are turned off by the typical nice guy. They are looking for a “bad boy,” – the man who doesn’t want to commit and is easy to brush them off without a second thought. Why? Because they like the thrill of the chase and the challenge of getting a man to settle down when he normally wouldn’t.
The best way for women like this to meet men of this caliber is for them to go to bars or parties and find a guy whom they do not know at all or very well. Once the physical part of the hook up is over however, some of these women feel emotionally spent. They criticize themselves for getting into that situation and letting him walk away without a second thought. Yet they go back and do it all over again, repeating the same pattern.
Women who seek this type of man often have low self-esteem. They don’t mesh well with nice guys who will compliment them and take a sincere interest in them. The positive attitude of the nice guy is too much for them to handle, so they will date someone who validates their low feelings of self-worth.
Women need emotional intimacy, no matter what type of guy they are hooking up with. Women who seek out “bad boys” learn, after a few dating cycles, what works for them, but eventually they will have to look at themselves and their behavior and figure out what they need to have a sustained relationship that lasts longer than a night and isn’t filled with regret in the morning. They must accept dates from nice men, accept the positive reinforcement, take compliments as they are given. The more they associate with the nice guys, the less likely they will be to year for chasing a “bad boy”.