I know a lot of women shudder at the word “submissive”. They think that it gives men the power to treat them like a slave. They have these visions of women back in the day being knocked over the head and lead around by their hair and not having the power to do anything about it. Some women have visions of a man telling them what they can do, where they can go and even what they can wear. That is not the correct definition or vision of submission.
The definition of Submission is a woman giving the man that she loves and respects the power to lead over their family and make the final decisions. But that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t consult you or consider your opinions when making those decisions. By you being in submission to him, he in turn should understand the responsibility of you agreeing for him to make decisions and lead the family. And he should understand that you two are unified and he should give you respect as well and include you and not just run off and make decisions without consulting you because you have made the decision to be submissive and allow him to lead.
Submission doesn’t give any man the power to treat you as a slave, take your rights or your voice. Submission should only be given to a man who is worthy of such. You have to be aware of the type of man you are being submitted to and know that being submissive isn’t a life sentence. If the man isn’t worthy, making bad decisions or treating you badly, then you must make that decision to stop being submissive or never start in the beginning. You are giving him that power and you have the right to take it back if he isn’t being responsible and respectful.
Submission is power. It takes a strong woman, especially in these days and times, to submit to a man and it definitely gives the woman some power, but mostly importantly, it lets that man know that you trust and respect him to be the head of your family.
So don’t think that being submissive is giving up your rights, becoming a slave or not having a voice. It’s a mutual respect given by both parties. And remember to make sure he is worthy of you being submissive or it’s your fault for giving up your power.
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Lorie Hardy is the author of “There Are No Good Men Because There Are No Good Women”. She has a passion to empower women and children in all aspects of life. She is a weekly guest on the “Straight Talk” Internet show. She is a writer and director. Visit Lorie at www.facebook.com/empowerment4life, www.empowerment4life.com, or on twitter @empowermnt4life