Much of the discussion of abuse in romantic relationships tends to focus on men who physically assault women. Abuse, however also happens emotionally and verbally and for a lot of women, they experience all types from one abuser. Also, not all abusers are men; some women do abuse their husbands or significant others.
Below are some clues that abusers often give before they finally assault (physically or otherwise) someone:
1. Being too clingy – It may seem sweet when your man wants you to be together a lot or even all the time but be mindful of this behavior. Many abusers want to isolate their partners from friends and family. A big alarm is when thy act hurt or offended when you spend time with loved ones and even try to make you stop or feel guilty about it.
2. Veiled insults and sarcasm – It’s one thing to play around and joke with your partner but if you notice your man is being hurtful with his so-called jokes and says a lot of sarcastic things to you or about you, take note. Sarcasm is passive form of anger and with time, it could get worse. Also, insults that start out as jokes can also become worse and include a lot of criticism.
3. Rushing to commitment – Some people meet and they both feel like they’ve known each other forever. They may even have a cliche like that it was love at first sight. That may be okay for some people but you need to be aware if your new man feels this way and you don’t. If it feels like he is rushing the relationship and asking you to commit quicker than you are comfortable doing, that is a red flag.
4. Insecurity and lack of confidence – We all feel a little insecure at times and we don’t always feel confident but if your new man is so insecure that it is hard for you to ignore, take that as a warning sign.
Relationships are about learning and growing and in a healthy relationship, you should feel loved, appreciated and at ease. There may be times when the relationship is a little challenging but you should never have o stay in a relationship where you feel disrespected, threatened or suffocated.