Ending a relationship is tough even if it was a bad relationship to start with. Just like any other loss there needs to be a recovery and grieving period. Here are some tips to help you to get back on track after a messy break-up.
1. Cry. Throw a little pity party for yourself. You suffered a loss. Even if the relationship wasn’t a good one, you still worked hard to try and make it work, and when it doesn’t you may feel like you have failed somehow. So go ahead and let the tears flow. It is a natural way to deal with a loss. After the pity party is over, grab some ice cream and a friend and watch movies until the sun comes up. Just make sure that you have your pity part and then move on; don’t stay there.
2. What happened is not your fault. It was a bad relationship that was probably doomed from the start. Forgive yourself. You cannot change it once it is over, so you may as well let it go. You can now learn from the experience and know what not to look for in your next partner.
3. Things happen for a reason, even terrible relationships. Accept the fact that it just wasn’t meant to be.
4. Don’t look at yourself in a negative light. If you do it is time to change that. You need to learn to love yourself first. If you can’t learn to love who you are despite any flaws that you may think you have, no one else will be able to love you either because you won’t let them. Make a list of all of the things that you want to avoid in your next relationship and things that you didn’t like about your last one. When you look over the list it will remind you that it was a place that you weren’t meant to be and you deserve better.