Tracy McMillan is a well-known author. She is also someone who has experienced a horrible childhood and come out of it with strength and success. Her father was a convicted felon, a drug dealer and was also a p!mp. She barely ever saw her father because he was always in prison and her mother (who was a pr0st!tute) gave her away. Here is some advice that she has for those who have had bad childhoods and how to overcome them.
1. Blaming someone will not change anything. When you place blame on someone else, sure it feels great, but you are not saying that you want things to change. You are simply deferring responsibility. If you want your life to change you need to stop blaming others and make that change happen.
2. Get a paper route. Yes, it is something that kids use to want to have, but if you can get a job like that now, it will be hard. You will be frustrated, especially if you live in an area with snow. Work it until you just can’t take it anymore. Everything else will seem easy in comparison.
3. Save your money. You want to have a nest egg should anything happen. You also want to be able to be as independent as possible. McMillian says “Think of every dollar you save as one step away from the people and places that have kept you down”.
4. Make a new story for yourself. Instead of being the victim of a horrible childhood, turn the story around so that you are the brave one for stepping away from the situation. Your parents didn’t abandon you. You simply walked away because even then you knew you could have a better life.
5. You will have to accept the fact at some point that not everyone wants to see you be successful. There are those that are jealous and will want to see you fail. Don’t let it get to you. You can become as successful as you want to and if they don’t support you they shouldn’t be in your life.
6. Pretend that you work at a store like Target. Instead of complaining about a bad childhood, put it on the back burner and do something productive, just like you would if a customer were complaining at a department store.
7. Decide that it is time to start kicking some tail. If you are mad at a particular person or thing, do whatever it takes to be successful. For example, if you are in school and you have a teacher that doesn’t think that you are going to be able to do your work right, show her a thing or two and get an A on your next test.