By: Isabella Carson
Have you found yourself in a bit of a rut with your partner lately? There are many things that can cause this such as exhaustion, limited time, or an underlying physical issue that one partner doesn’t want to talk about. There also could be something that your partner isn’t telling you, for example if they are mad at you for some reason. Here are some things that you can do to get out of the rut and get back to a normal s*x life:
1. Communication – The first step is acknowledging that there is a problem. It may be tough to bring this up with your partner as you don’t want to make the problem worse than it already is. Once you start talking about it you can find out what the root of the problem is and come up with ways on how to fix the problem.
2. Respect – Make sure that you respect your partner’s views. If they are telling you that they have a problem with something in your relationship you have to make sure that you respect their opinion and try to resolve the issue any way that you can that is agreeable to both parties. Don’t blame your partner. Sit and talk to each other about the problem without placing blame and then set some goals for what you want to do to fix the rut.
3. New Adventures – Once you know what you want to try and do to help the problem it is time to open yourselves up to new experiences. Try spicing things up with games or role play. S*x isn’t just about the big O. It is about gaining closeness with your partner and discovering new things about each other. Take some time to actually focus on each other instead of having an end goal when you are in bed together.
4. Therapy – There may be times when visiting a s*x therapist is necessary. You may have trouble communicating with your partner and it could be helpful to have an unbiased third party there to help you honestly discuss your feelings. They may also be able to offer some insight into some solutions that can help you to get back on track.