Is it Okay For Couples To Sleep In Separate Rooms or Beds?


downloadBy: Krystle Crossman

It is common to sleep in the same bed when you are a couple. However more and more couples are opting to sleep in different beds or even different rooms, and it is much better for them. A recent survey showed that 25% of couples sleep separately. There are many different reasons for this that include snoring, sleep disturbances, differing schedules, or the temperature each partner likes to sleep at. Some people even build a walk-in closet so that when their partner disturbs them they can get away and sit for a moment in the quiet.

There haven’t been many studies conducted on couples sleeping together or separately. One of the theories as to why sleeping in the same bed and cuddling while falling asleep benefits you is the release of oxytocin. This is a hormone that is released with a comforting touch or embrace. You feel that you are safe and secure and may have an easier time falling asleep. On the other hand, all of that cuddling can raise your body temperature significantly which may make it hard to get to sleep.

You need a good night’s sleep, and sometimes the way to get that is by sleeping in a separate bed. Cuddling is all well and good, but what about when your partner starts snoring in your ear or begins kicking you all night because of their restless less syndrome? You are not going to be getting much sleep and will be irritable the next day. If you have a disturbance in your sleep due to your partner’s sleeping habits, separate beds may be the way to go. It can actually increase your intimacy because you are getting a better night’s sleep.



  1. Believe me it is way better to sleep in a very large bed or two separate beds, especially if one of you needs to get up before dawn to go to work.

    • Deborah Hebert on

      I don’t agree with that…If a person going to cheat they will cheat and it has nothing to do with sleeping together or apart.

  2. Been married for 34 years. (My Opion:)Through the years individuals develop certain personal patterns i.e., Snoring, kicking, room too hot or to cold. Differences in T.V. programs, illness etc.,
    My wife says she must have the fan and window open even in cold winter. I go to the RR at least three times a night. Besides all the above, I enjoy being up at night and sleeping during the day. It wasn’t like this during the (baby making) earlier years. When I do go to bed I want to sleep. My wife kicks the blankets all over the bed. When I sleep by myself the bed is hardly disturbed and I sleep sound. We are young seniors, sex to me, is not a major priority I like maligning money and learning the arts. We HIT IT every now and then, but my rule is: “Once a king always a king, but once a knight that’s enough for me.” I’m just sayin’.

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