There are a lot of different reasons that a marriage may fail. Communication or lack thereof is usually where the blame is placed, but this is not always the case. There are other reasons that marriages go downhill that are not a communication issue. Here are nine overlooked things that can break a marriage:
1. Baggage – There are things that you may have done when you were younger that you are ashamed of. We all have done these things. Unfortunately if you do not move on from them they will carry on into your adult life. Once your partner triggers that shame in you it turns into a fight and a blame game when they didn’t even have anything to do with it in the first place.
2. Losing interest – As you get older you start to lose interest in things that you once loved. This can include your spouse.
3. Changes – We marry the people that we like. People change though. As you grow older your personality and looks change to adapt with your environment. Sadly you may not always like who your spouse has turned into.
4. Egos – Everyone has an ego and sometimes it can become bothersome in a relationship. Try going on the offensive instead of the defensive during arguments. Your ego could get the best of you if you don’t keep it in check.
5. Loneliness – Even if you are in a marriage it doesn’t mean that you aren’t lonely. Once you get married you tend to blame the other person even though they aren’t doing anything wrong.
6. Mess – Marriage is messy and it is hard work. When something doesn’t go right you tend to blame your partner. Doing this every time something happens in the relationship will break the both of you down.
7. Power struggle – Who is in charge in the relationship? That is the endless struggle. If you let it get to you the struggle will end up dissolving the relationship.
8. Empathy – You have to take turns being empathetic to your spouse. You cannot do it at the same time so someone needs to take the first leap.
9. Children – Children should be the highlight of your life but not the center. Some people get so wrapped up in their children that they forget about the person that they made that child with.