Mo’Nique Says Before Her Weight Loss, She Was Reckless

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Mo’Nique is not just a great comedian, she is also a respected actress.  She won an Oscar for her performance in the 2009 hit film, “Precious ,” and has since had a show on BET.  She keeps her star power going and is respected around the world.

One other thing that Mo’Nique has done to earn a huge amount of respect is lose dozens of pounds of weight over the last few years.   She says that she became concerned when she reached 262 pounds and found that her blood pressure was getting high.

“For a long time I was a child in my way of thinking. I thought that I could eat what I wanted, do
what I wanted, and was reckless in the sense of abusing my body. That’s when I was younger. I think that the journey I have to take now is that I have babies. I have a son who is 23, but I also have a son who is nine. And we have twins who are seven. I want to meet their children. I want to be able to play with their children. I don’t want to be a burden on my family due to self-neglect….I was fortunate to watch my grandmother play with my children. I want to be in the same position.”

Mo’Nique says that her husband was honest with her about her weight problems, and let her know that he expected her to do something about it.  She describes her husband’s reaction in her own passionate and compelling way.

“My husband said ‘That’s too much baby. I want you for a lifetime. I love you so much that I can’t lie to you,” she said. “I had never felt that type of love before.”

Mo’Nique’s workouts have been like magic.  She dropped from 262 to 217.  Her size has gone from 20 to 14 and she’s not done yet:  She says she wants to get down to 180 pounds before it’s all done.  She joins another formerly big and beautiful celebrity, Jennifer Hudson, who also dropped a great deal of weight.  Hudson recently hit the headlines when it was revealed that her husband-to-be may not be as happy with her weight loss as she is.  But when you’re on your journey to wellness, not everyone is going to be happy about it, but you have to do what is best for your health.

Mo’Nique works out with a personal trainer five days per week.  She also has a few more elements to her regimen:

Drinking a gallon of water a day

Avoiding fried foods

Eating raw fruits and vegetables and fresh fish

Giving up red meat

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  1. Ce-Ce Linville on

    You go Monique I love you regardless because of your heart and talent but you look great keep it up.

  2. U look great, you’ve encourage me to go far it. Personal Train is what I don’t have. Anyway girls got to do what is best for the health.

    • Hehe, you don’t even need a trainer! Hit up Target and Walmart and get a few DVDs and some weights. Buy a few workout outfits and if you need it a sports bra (or 3) and get going! However, know your physical limitations before you get started.

      BTW, I’m down 35 lbs. About 15-25 to go, depending on how I’m feeling when I get closer to “goal” 🙂

  3. Every person has to do whatever is best for them to live a long happy life..I applude anyone who can change anything in their life to make it better! I myself am not over weight but I know I need to wk out & watch my diet because I have big women in my family..so my plan has started!

  4. gO GIRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL. lIVING IN wEST vIRGINIA IS TRULY AN EXPERIENCE. BUT NOW THAT MY DAUGHTER INVITED ME TO LIVE IN HAWAII WITH THEM FOR THE SUMMER MAYBE INTO THE FALL I DEFINATELY MADE UP MY MIND TO LOSE AND NOW THAT I READ AND SEE HOW GREAT YOU LOOK MO, YOU INSPIRED ME EVEN MORE. THE NEW NORDICTRAK THAT OUT ON THE INFOMERCIAL IN WHICH THEY HAVE HERE IN THIER HOUSE IS ALSO HELPING. THAT INCLINE IS A MOTHER BUT I CHALLENGE MYSELF EVERYDAY AND DRINK WATER, COCONUT MILK, TEA FOR BREAKFAST, LIGHT LUNCH AND DINNER AND FEELING GREAT. I DON’T LIKE LOOKING OVER THE 200 MARK BUT 2LBS TO GO I WILL BE BACK UNDER IT. WE WILL DO THIS TOGETHER NIQUE LOVE YA

    • Kudos to you for recognizing the change that you want for yourself! That’s only the beginning part of the battle. Your age is only a number to set as a goal of how jumping jacks or sits you’d like to accomplish at one time 😉 Take your health journey a day at a time. Changing your diet, doing an exercise a day, incorporating a healthy regime into your life. Good luck!!

    • The motto at Over Eaters Anonymous is (or was..I’m not sure if it’s still the same): “It’s not what you’re eating…it’s what’s eating you!”

      Recently, I was devastated to re-connect with one of my high-school best friends on FB, only to learn that she is so obese that she is confined to a wheelchair because she no longer walk. The emotional pain came thru loud and clear, and I reached out to her with everything in me. I told her the same thing I just said to you.

      Emotional, psychological and physical trauma can leave such deep scars and wounds, that we seek relief from them in many different ways: alcohol, drugs, hoarding, promiscuity, reclusive behaviors…we turn to all kinds of sources for our pain, but none of them, healthy.

      There’s a reason you’re overeating. And the sooner you get to the bottom of it, the sooner you can begin to heal, and drop the weight.

      I remember when Oprah first came on the scene and went up and down…up and down with the weight issue. I said to my mother (who by the way, also struggled with bulimia): “When she tells the truth about whatever it is she’s hiding, she’ll be able to keep the weight off.” Sure enough, when she was able to confront her molestation and parental abandonment, her life took the turn she had been searching for.

      Find a counselor or begin to read books on “emotional healing.” Most people place so much emphasis on the physical and leave off the most needy issue – the emotions. If you can bring yourself to talk about (even if you have to write it out in a secret journal…but write until you’re able to allow all of the pain, the hurt, the rejection, the bitterness to run it’s complete course), you will find the turn-around that you need.

      I’ve been counseling people for many, many years and I am positive that getting that “secret” out, will be the beginning of a brand new life for you. You can never heal what you refuse to uncover. Secrets steal away your voice, your ability to have healthy relationships, and the freedom that comes from being open and honest.

      As I pray for my friend (she has yet to accept my help or, to seek help from another source), I will remember to pray for you. I pray that you make the choice to take back your power!!

    • PS: My mother by the way (now deceased) and I confronted her “secret,” together. It was emotional and physical abandonment, by her father.

      My mother’s father left her Mom, when she was 2years old. As a child, she loved and revered this tall, handsome man who showed up once every two weeks: on her mother’s payday. He’d show up drunk, beat his wife mercilessly, take her paycheck and disappear until the next payday rolled around.

      To keep my mother from witnessing this abuse, my grandmother took my mom to HER mom, and left her there while she went in search of another job to make ends meet, bringing her total job number now to 3!

      My mother barely got a chance to see her mother. And rarely, rarely saw her father…and when she did, most times he was drunk.

      My mother’s mom eventually suffered a mental collapse, and died. Her father was (of course), still absent amidst all of this pain and loss. Alcoholism finally consumed my mother’s dad, and he died. By now my mother was a successful entrepreneur, pastor and school teacher. She took care of her father’s funeral arrangements and gave him a nice burial. But before she did, she brought out the one and only dress he’d ever bought for her at 2 years of age, and laid it on his body in his casket. She said to him: “This is the only thing you’ve ever done for me. Please, take it with you. I didn’t need it then, and I don’t need it, now.”

      The re-telling of that story helped me to zoom in on the source of her pain. And I’m sharing it with you because sometimes, the source of our pain can be traced all the way back to childhood….even infancy. Sometimes, parents can be PHYSICALLY present, but EMOTIONALLY absent, and we’re not aware that the damage from emotional abandonment, can be just as devastating as PHYSICAL abandonment.

      There are many reasons for developing dysfunctional behavior. Look deep inside, pray, write or find a counselor. The sooner you confront what’s eating you, you’ll stop eating to cover your emotions and stop eating for comfort, and begin eating to live!

  5. I serve a good god and that is why I will always my sisters because we are all one. Love you Ms Monique’ and Ms Mia campbell/ Have a blessed day
    ;.l;;;;;.;;l.,,,,

  6. @Bridgett Stallworth – Just make up your mind to lose the weight. The hardest part is getting started. Once you get started, make a committment to stay on this regimen and before you know it, the weight is starting to come off. Please just give it a try. I am in your corner.

  7. Thanks Monique,
    When you are tall, you can pull ff weighing more ; additionally, most Black women have natural curves in all the right places.
    You go Monique and hanks for keepingnit real!

  8. Cee Chambers-Sarlow on

    I am glad that she got healthy..Its a nice way for her to advocate weight loss/health without endorsing being unhealthy.

  9. i have always loved monique !! she was absolutely gorgeous when she was big but now that she is soooo thin she is absolutely hot and gorgeous !! gives us all hope and inspiration – love it

  10. Uh…I'm 5ft.11 and weight 225 and I'm a size 14 because of my great height. However if she's 219 & only 5ft9….she's probably a size 16/18. Many times actors lie and never tell how big they REALLY WERE. My guess…Mo was probably a size 24/26 to begin with…Regardless, she's Gorgeous, talented, and highly favored. Her weight journey is a testimony to many. Nothing but well wishes for her!

  11. Yolanda Perkins on

    She don't Have to lie about her clothes size everybody's body shape is different she does not have Broad shoulders Heavy breast so she can clearly be a 14

  12. I am 5’3, weight 170 pounds and wear a size 8 pants and size 10 jeans. I have a FULL bust
    line, 38D, and I have very “muscular legs” so that is where I carry most of my weight.

  13. She looks great…….but size 20? Come on now….that? I am not buying it. 26 probably. But why not be honest? Why? And 262? Nope don't believe that either. But again she looks great now…just wonder why the numbers don't add up to what she looked like BEFORE THE WEIGHT LOSS.

  14. LaKarri Monique Watkins-Colding on

    Mary R. Pitts You have to look at the body frame too just because she was large it doesn't mean her body frame was too, plus everybody body is different

  15. Sharon Harper on

    I’m so happy for her. Most people don’t know that she wasn’t always fat. Go back and look at some of the early Def Jam tapes.

  16. monica alatorre on

    Man after reading this made me think i keep saying all u said i have 5 kids 22 19 12 7 3 im over weight and also have high blood pressure problems i always feel so weak ..but i cant find my out of my fat body how do i start where do i go for the help to reprogram my mind ti say i can really do it .

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