When you get engaged, what do you imagine the day to be like? Is it at some big romantic restaurant, a small intimate park, or in the comfort of your own home? Do you have family and friends there, is it in front of a bunch of strangers, or is it just the two of you? What about the ring? Do you envision this large, gleaming diamond that he surprises you with, shining and glittering as he opens the box? Now that you have all of this thought out, do you imagine that you are helping to pay for that shiny new ring?
There are a lot of things that women will do to get an engagement ring. Recently there was a story of a New York Times writer who is making her boyfriend 300 sandwiches after he said that he would ask her to marry him if she did that since he always did all of the cooking. It was a light hearted joke between the two of them, but she is still making those sandwiches. If you have a partner who doesn’t have a lot of money for an outstanding engagement ring, will you help to pay for it? This is a growing trend with women who want that large glittering ring, but know that their husbands-to-be cannot quite afford to throw down a lot of cash.
Some women will pay for half of the ring, some will open a joint account to help pay, and some will even offer to pay for some of the ring if the fiancé will agree to exchanging for a bigger rock. The Today Show ran a poll and 54% of the respondents said that they would not pay for their own engagement ring. It only seems fair at this point for women to chip in at least a little as we are seeing more and more women becoming the breadwinners of the family as opposed to the men.