I’ve been seeing (peripherally) a few stories that say that Kelly Rowland was dealing with a lot of jealousy regarding her “sister” Beyonce Knowles. Kelly even went as far as making this disclosure in a song. I even read that Kelly had a minor emotional break-down while performing this particular song.
Kelly being jealous of Beyonce comes as no surprise to me. Here are three reasons why:
1. Beyonce is light skinned and Kelly is dark skinned
Now, just so we are clear; I do not think that being light skinned is “better” than being dark skinned. That being said, it is unfortunate that far too many Black people buy into the lie that if someone is lighter, then they are better looking. (And please, refrain from in-boxing me nasty messages because you’re having an emotional reaction to that fact).
2. Kelly Lived With Beyonce’s Family
Kelly lived with Beyonce’s parents and they served as her guardians, when she was a little girl. Now, I know first hand that you can live with people and they can love you and care for you but no matter how well meaning they are, there is always a feeling of being “secondary”. What I mean by this is that even though the Knowles family probably gave Kelly a lot of love and affection, the fact remains that she was not their child and Beyonce was. Its human nature to have more of an attachment to your biological child than to one who is not your biological child.
3. Beyonce is a Powerhouse
Honestly, I am not that big of a Beyonce fan. I’m not a hater-I just happen to not be her audience. That being said, I do recognize and absolutely appreciate that she is a Powerhouse! Her husband is a mogul, she has (as far as we can see) a wonderful marriage and a beautiful baby girl and as if that were not enough, she has a powerhouse career of her own. In fact, some might say she is also a mogul, just like her husband. In short, Beyonce is extremely accomplished and appears to “have it all”. Even the most spiritually evolved and emotionally healthy of us would experience some feelings of inadequacy and maybe even jealousy if we had to live in close quarters with Beyonce.
I applaud Kelly for her honesty and emotional transparency. I actually believe that those are her keys to a more successful career as an artist. I don’t judge Kelly for being jealous; I appreciate her honesty.
Nomalanga helps Black women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , a former College Professor and the reigning Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s Facebook page or Follow her on Twitter