Sherri Shepherd has been in the headlines a lot of late, even before she announced she was leaving The View. First it was revealed that her second husband was filing for divorce and soon after it was revealed that she had also filed for divorce in a different state. The latest news is that Shepherd allegedly said that she does not want the unborn baby that her and her soon-to-be-ex-husband paid a surrogate to carry for them.
It has been reported that the The View co-host accused her husband of plotting to have a baby with her so that he would then divorce her and collect child support. The problem with her husband’s alleged plan is that when the “test-tube” baby was conceived, the eggs that were used were not Shepherds’ even though the “seed” came from her husband, Lamar Sally.
It has been reported that the reason why Shepherd filed for divorce in a different state is that she filed in New Jersey where she can petition the court to absolve her of any responsibility for the surrogate baby. Many people have taken to social media to voice their harsh judgement of the talk show host for walking away from “a baby that she agreed to create”.
Now, had the comedienne and her husband agreed with a surrogate that the surrogate would carry their baby and said baby was conceived with Shepherd’s eggs and her husband’s “seed”, I may have understood why there was an uproar about Sherri not wanting to have anything to do with the baby. Considering that the comedian and actress reportedly says that she believes that her soon-to-be-ex was just plotting to come for her money and he’s the one that filed for the divorce, I think she is well within her rights to walk away from both him and the “test-tube baby” (that has no biological connection to her).
If you think that Shepherd is evil for wanting to walk away from a baby that she originally wanted to raise with her husband, consider that she can still be in the child’s life without all the court drama and child support fees. If Sally really wants Sherri to be a co-parent, he could have tried to work things out with her amicably. The fact that his first instinct was to run to the courts, to me, suggests he had “money on his mind”!
Consider, as well, that Sherri Shepherd is the same woman who, on an episode of The View blurted out that she had had “many abort!ons”. Why does it seem like a stretch that a woman who would repeatedly get pregnant and keep terminating the pregnancies would walk away from a baby that was not even biologically hers? And why did Sally think she would hesitate to cut ties?
We hear too many stories about couples that divorce where the man was the primary bread winner and the woman is accused of being a gold-digger for requiring the man to pay alimony and child support. In a lot of those cases, the women have forgone great careers and made sacrifices that they would not have made had they not gotten married and had children. In the case of Sally, first of all, he was not married to Shepherd long enough to claim that he had become accustomed to a certain lifestyle and he did not quit his job to ease the pressure of a pregnancy or raise their children.
It may seem like Sherri Shepherd is ruthless for saying she wants nothing to do with the unborn baby but if it turns out that Sally was so low of a man that he was plotting to cash out after leaving Shepherd then he deserves to go forward with none of his ex-wife’s money. If indeed he really did want a baby and not Sherri’s money, then she is just giving him what he wants. As for what will ultimately happen to the unborn baby, time will tell.
Nomalanga helps Black women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , a former College Professor and Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s Facebook page or Follow her on Twitter