Nomalanga’s Mindful Mondays: Don’t Be Timid With Your Life


DSC_3198By Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

Last Monday I got an early morning call from back home. As the phone rang, my heart skipped a beat because it has been my experience that when I get a phone call early in the morning, it is a matter of urgency and typically not in a good way. This particular morning was no different. My mother was the one calling and sadly, she was calling to report that my paternal grandmother had passed away.

This year, 2014, was to be my grandmother’s 93rd year here on earth and that is what I chose to focus on; her long and full life. Even though I felt sad, I felt a tremendous amount of gratitude that I knew her, spent time with her and that she was my grandmother.

When someone’s life ends, it always makes me think about life in general. This past week, I have been thinking about how so many of us spend so much of our lives trying so hard not to “mess up” that we become timid, fearful and sometimes even boring, then before we know it, it’s over.

Fear is something that we all experience but when we  walk through life being timid and overly cautious, it makes me question what the point of our lives is. We are born naturally curious, adventurous and seeking love. When we live timid lives, it seems to me that we are wasting our lives.

So, how about going for that job that you feel too inadequate to even apply for or going on that date with that guy you like even though the last one broke your heart? In each instance of whatever you go for, go with the curious and positive outlook of a child. Don’t be timid and don’t let fear get in the way of you living a full, vibrant and colorful life. You can be mindful and exercise wisdom but be bold and adventurous.

Your life is finite and it is yours to live; don’t waste it being timid – I’m not!

What have you been timid about and afraid to do?

Nomalanga helps Black women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , a former College  Professor and Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s Facebook page or Follow her on Twitter


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