By Staff Blogger
You may have seen movies and TV shows where its shown how awful in-laws can be, or you may have to hear woes from one of your married friends on the subject. Sometimes, the in-laws can be so bad it leads to the demise of the relationship. Before you marry your honey, make sure that you meet the family first. It will give you a glimpse into the future, to see how they will be with you and what their attitudes are like.
When you meet the parents, take note of their demeanor towards you and your hubby-to-be. Do they seem like they are happy about the fact that you are getting married or do they seem to think that he can do better? Do they talk down to him or are they encouraging? Are they loving and happy? If you see a pair of sullen, demeaning, and sour people across from you at the dinner table…run!
Many women marry their men even with the knowledge that they are getting awful in-laws and it ends up causing stress for everyone involved. If you notice that his family are less than spectacular, sit down and talk with him to get a better sense of who they are, or spend as much time as you can around them before the big day to see them once they are comfortable with you around. You may find that they are very different after they get to know you and you get to know them better.
No one wants to marry and man and end up in more of a relationship with his parents than with him. Sometimes it is a good idea to save yourself the trouble and just walk away before the marriage. Some women see the warning signs and get married anyway, then they are stuck with those people for their in-laws for the rest of their lives (or until they get divorced).
It is a good idea to have a very deep conversation with your groom. The relationship can work if he has a “challenging” family but he is willing and able to set boundaries so that you don’t have to be miserable just to stay married to your husband.