By Staff Blogger
Some people hear the words “open marriage” and they scoff. Some believe it is just for people who want to cheat without it actually being called cheating. Others think that it’s the best kind of relationship. Despite what people think, can an open marriage actually work? Researcher, Karen Salmansohn explored the good, the bad and the ugly of open marriages.
There are some good things about having an open marriage. An open marriage can often times be more truthful than a traditional marriage. Communication is a large part of being in this unconventional relationship. The partners love each other but if they feel the need to be with someone else for a time, they just have to be honest about it. This is the goal of an open marriage; to foster an environment of honesty and one where the partners do not feel the need to lie. Jealousy is limited because they understand the difference between s*x with others and romance with others.
There are bad things about open marriages as well. Most view marriage as a commitment to one singular person and that is all. Open marriages can be seen as the avoidance of commitment. Despite the agreements that are made in an open marriage, we are all human. Jealousy, insecurity, competitiveness, and anger are sure to play a part no matter how good their open marriage is. This can be a recipe for disaster and heartache.
Some question, if you just want to run around with other people, why would you bother to get married in the first place? It seems that open marriages are just a way for someone to say that yes, they are married, but they are still going to live the bachelor life without consequences or fear of divorce. Mostly an open marriage just seems like a giant bomb that is just waiting to blow. According to Steve Brody PhD, stated that 92% of open marriages fail.
Steve Brody, PhD, a psychologist in Cambria, California, shared that less than 1 percent of married people engage in open marriages but it seems to be a number that is increasing. Even online dating sites are starting to offer applicants a new box to check—married.