When ever we hear about a woman who is pregnant and does not know who the father of the baby is, most of us will look at her with a judgmental eye because of the many implications that come with her circumstance. Not knowing the father of your child implies that you were having an intimate relationship with more than one man in the same time period which is enough to cause people to judge you but it also implies that you were also being reckless with your life by not using protection to prevent not only pregnancy, but many diseases.
Beyond the judgment, though, there is a women, maybe even a young girl who is in a very distressing situation. Being pregnant, when it was unplanned, unwanted and unexpected is already very stressful but not knowing who the father of the child is makes it even worse.
Rachel Ambler, a consultant midwife and contributor at babycenter.uk, gives advice:
If you’re not sure who the dad of your baby is, it’s only natural to worry about it all the time. Rest assured, you can probably work out who the dad is by looking back at when your last period started.
Now’s the time to really focus on your baby and yourself, and be practical. What’s done is done, and getting stressed is not good for you or your baby.
So, here’s how you can work out who your baby’s dad is. You need to know when you were most likely to get pregnant, when you were at your most fertile. If your periods are regular, this should be simple.
First of all, write down when the first day of your last period was. If you don’t normally make a note of when your periods start, try to remember other things. Can you remember where you were or what you were doing when your last period started?
Most women have a period every 28 days. If you do too, work out the date your last period started, and count on two weeks. That’s when you’ll be fertile, because it’s around that time that your ovaries release an egg. When your ovaries release an egg, it’s called ovulation.
You’ll ovulate 14 days before the date your next period is due. So it’s an easy sum to do if you have a 28-day cycle. You’ll be fertile half-way through your cycle.
But if your periods come more or less often than 28 days, you’ll need to adjust the sums. So, say you have a period every 23 days. Work out the date that your next period was due (the one you’ve missed) and count back 14 days. On a 23-day cycle, you’ll ovulate on day nine.