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Relationships: Why Black Men Get Angry When Black Women Date White Men

Tamera and hubbyBy Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

The media has certainly done a good job of planting it firmly in our minds that it is next to impossible for a Black woman to get her “happily ever after”. According to main stream media, Black men are to be feared, rather than loved and partnered with to make happy homes and raise children with.

While the media does tend to be overly focused on how Black women can’t “get a man” because there is either something wrong with Black men or Black women themselves, we can not deny that a lot of women do feel that sometimes it is hard to find a good, decent man among our brothers.

There is an increasing voice that suggests that maybe Black women should expand their dating pool and increase their likelihood of finding a man by exploring relationships with men of other races. As long as this “expansion” is not heavily influenced by the belief that there is something wrong or inferior about Black men, I reckon it could be a  good idea.

For those women that have explored relationships with men of other races, there is a lot of anger coming from Black men and here is why:

1. America has an ugly history when it comes to race – While some people would rather sweep it under the rug and try to pretend like it never happened or that Black people should be “over it” by now, this country has a very ugly past. Black people were oppressed by White people and there is no denying it. While I certainly don’t get angry at the thought of interracial dating and marriage, I have to admit that when I think about the country’s history, I can understand why it may be hurtful for a man to see his  “sister”  with what many still perceive as our oppressor.

2. Some Black people hate themselves – I’ll never forget the day when one of my students told me that she wanted to have a baby with either a “white guy” or a light skinned guy because she was dark skinned and could not bear the thought of having a baby that would be dark skinned like her. Of course not everyone who dates outside of the race does so because of self hatred, but there are people why do hate themselves and they date and marry outside of their own race because they want to disassociate themselves with their race and skin tone.

3. They are possessive jerks! – Let’s face it; there are some legitimate reasons to feel a little uneasy about seeing an interracial couple but there are also some people who are not uneasy for legitimate reasons -they are just possessive jerks who think they OWN women just because they belong to the same race. These men will often insult and call women names when they see them dating non-Black men. The funny thing is that many Black men don’t want to get married so you would think they would be indifferent if a woman married someone who wants to get married, regardless of their race.

At the end of the day, while I can certainly see both sides of the “coin”, I think that when it comes to matters of the heart, we would do well to just “live and let live”. There is no sense in having a bad day just because some random woman you saw was not living her life and conducting her love life according to how you have determined she should.

As for the women who want to expand their dating pool and keep an open mind about who they end up marrying, to you, I say: Do you!

Nomalanga helps Black women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , a former College Professor and the reigning Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s Facebook page or Follow her on Twitter 

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107 Responses to Relationships: Why Black Men Get Angry When Black Women Date White Men

  1. James Heyward Reply

    August 9, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    I don’t care who dates whom. I’m a Black man and I love my sisters. I have never dated outside of my race because I never had any desire to. I have 3 daughters and I’d rather them hook up with a man of another race that treats them right, than a Black man that doesn’t.

    • john wiseman Reply

      August 10, 2013 at 4:18 pm

      who’s to say that a white man won’t treat your daughters bad?

      • Kenyada Reply

        May 1, 2014 at 5:38 pm

        You should see the comment again, she didnt say that, just that race wasnt important pretty much.

        • Drama Reply

          May 3, 2014 at 2:29 pm

          Rummy u a ma ******* fool fa that. You spit sum real knowledge I mean somethings we are to blame but us being branded a threat u right. I dun see why the majority of people wanna attack you fa your opinions. I think alot of what I said must of hit home…. but it is what it is yo from on black brother to another keep doing ya thing man. Dont let these closed minded people try to muzzle ya opinions.

      • Kenyada Reply

        May 1, 2014 at 5:38 pm

        You should see the comment again, he didnt say that, just that race wasnt important pretty much.

      • Dehlia Reply

        July 19, 2014 at 4:44 pm

        Personally, black men cannot have it both ways; they can date, sleep, and marry white but have a problem with sisters eho choose to date white men. I waited for years to get asked out by brothers; and yes I admit my father was very strict in the past, but that should jot have stopped me from getting asked out. I graduated high school early and moved out at 15, and started college early. I got yired of sitting home waiting to be asked out by certain men and started dating whomever asked me out. Today while I have gone out a little more, my preferences like all men. I just am asked by one particular type of man. I ended falling in love and getting married eventually, but to those who have the audavity to let daughters, sisters, mothers, or friends be fesrful of dating men outside of their race…you sound afraid that these women will find “men” who love and wsnt to care for them! What happened in the past happened; but I am not going to hold that over the heads of White men today who wete not there, maybe not even born yet, and don’t have those same beliefs of those men back then! You can’t penalize men who are white just because they are white?

    • Chocolate wonder Reply

      August 10, 2013 at 7:08 pm

      You a Gotdamn lie! There isn’t a Black Man alive that would ever say some BS like that. You’re either a Misguided Sista or a white boy!

      • Nkem Reply

        August 15, 2013 at 1:42 pm

        Amen…

    • CHERILYN WHITE Reply

      August 15, 2013 at 6:06 am

      NICE POST

    • Ashley Reply

      November 30, 2013 at 9:29 pm

      I could have sworn you said man of another race not just a white man. Another ignorant comment is another reason why we as black women are stereotyped as loud and ignorant. Thank you for being a man secure enough with himself to only want what makes his children happy, and not become angry over other people’s decisions and choices.

  2. Brigitte Reply

    August 10, 2013 at 6:34 pm

    I have no problem as I have gotten older looking to date
    Outside my race , now let me make myself clear I have dated nothing but black men as as I’m a black woman, my outlook has changed my way of thinking
    and what I desire from a man has surly changed .. Jus sayin…..

  3. Chocolate wonder Reply

    August 10, 2013 at 7:05 pm

    I’m a Black Man and I love my Black Women with all my heart. When YOU(Nomalanga) say the media has planted it firmly in our minds that it is next to impossible for a Black woman to get her “happily ever after”on you are right. It is YOU that encourages this Mental Disease. The Majority of Black Men and do Women date and marry. When you refer to dating outside your race just go ahead and say date white men. You BARELY see a Sista with an Asian, Mexican,or Indian man, It’s primarily white. The white man and white woman are Not God’s Gift to Blacks. They are not to be Idolized. They are not the Chosen One’s as they would like for every race to believe. They don’t look at YOU as the Chosen One’s or Idolize YOU that’s for **** sure. As a matter of fact the majority hates the very ground you walk on and that’s a fact. Look to your own just like they look to their own and don’t believe the BS that the “Media” is putting out there. If you believe EVERYTHING they say, then we’re an Endangered Species.

    • CHERILYN WHITE Reply

      August 15, 2013 at 6:05 am

      WELL SAID!!

  4. v Reply

    August 15, 2013 at 5:12 am

    the media always glorified the black man
    Being with the white woman. You see it often. It’s rare to
    See the black woman with the white man until recently.
    The only color of love ….IS RED HOT!

  5. Rosemary Myers Reply

    August 15, 2013 at 5:52 am

    Okay now hear this loud and clear and give me proper advice – you with the know how about black and white.

    I have never dated a white man in my life – do you think I should try and see or if not why do you think not

  6. Mary Goode Reply

    August 27, 2013 at 11:51 am

    I was married to my White husband for 35 yrs until his death.I had nothing to complain about.

  7. Mercedes Daniel Reply

    October 4, 2013 at 11:03 am

    I could NEVER see myself with a white man or any man besides a Black King. Everyone including the media try to talk down upon our race especially our men. If our men were that bad and not wanting to marry us then why do you see A lot of White women stepping out their race to be with our a black man. That’s because even they see the greatness in our men. #LoveMyBlackKings!!!

    • Navine Reply

      October 30, 2013 at 1:46 pm

      Exactly, which why a lot of black women prefer not to limit themselves for something that doesn’t exsist: the black “kang”. Black men are men, as white and Hispanic. You have a right to your attractions, just let other black women have theirs. If you prefer to limit yourself fine, no one is going to bash you. But denying critisim and raising a man to a level above your own is like you serving yourself up as slab or desperate. But maybe we just see men differently.

      I adore black men also as a black woman. But as friends, family, and colleagues. But not romantically, husbands or mates. I have a ton of black men in my life whom I love and adore. I’m just not attracted to them in way I’d share my womb with one. There is no animosity towards them. Its just that I savor certain personality types and core values that most black men don’t share with me. Thus there is no attraction. It has nothing to do with looks and the geographical features we share. Its based off of conditioning, enviorment, and observation.

      Growing up all the things my family would watch: BET, VH1, MTV, etc and the way a lot black men treated women and relationships both in real life and media turned me off sometime early in my childhood, along with being disgusted with the behavior of the black community as a whole. With that I always felt the need to put on a performance for black men and women to be accepted. But I guess its human nature to be attracted to someone who treats you well. And growing up Hispanics, Asians, and Whites treated me better and was much more accepting of me. And not blurt out ignorant comments due to feeling insecure about themselves such as “You talk white”(which doesn’t exist also).

  8. Cheryl Reply

    November 3, 2013 at 7:17 pm

    I actually went through this situation not too long ago. The brother I was talking to at the time stated proudly that he attracted mostly “red bones” (I’m brown skin). I said “And I attract men of other races.What’s your point?” He was visibly irritated. I absolutely hate the entitlement brothers feel towards ALL women,as if they’re some great prize. I have been receiving more more attention from other races (and less from brothers) and plan on taking full advantage of interracial opportunities.

  9. Wambui Reply

    December 1, 2013 at 2:34 pm

    i find yall being very racist, most blacks are “more” racist than whites, i mean love is about individuality nothing like this stupidity ’bout race, like wth!!!!! and blaming the media, why do yall blacks blame everything on the media?!?!?!?!?!? i don’t get it, i just don’t, anyway, all i’m saying is love is love, the issue of colour is something you bring along probably just for the sake

  10. Lola Reply

    December 1, 2013 at 5:58 pm

    I see this question is being asked more and more. Of all the black men who really feel this way,there is never one who steps up to answer the question. It’s always black women commenting, or black men who claim not to feel this way. It’s obvious that there are many black men out there who date interracially & do have a problem when Black women do it. I’ve tried to ask men like this what is the reason, but never get an actual response. Why is it that black men are avoiding this question? Do they not want to say the truth, which is they feel entitled to us, but don’t feel the need to be loyal in return. Do they think of black Women as less than them? Do they not want us to be on the same “level” as them with their white counterparts? These men come off as selfish, self hating, and just plain hateful of black women if you ask me.

  11. Tee Reply

    December 1, 2013 at 7:17 pm

    I say love is color-blind and I do not judge. To each his/her own. I must say as I have gotten older, finding a black man to date who doesn’t have several baby’s mothers, a decent job/education, financially stable has become a darn near impossible feat. Not saying they’re not out there but the older you get, those ones are taken. With that being said, I have NO problem dating any race. It’s 2013, after all, not 1913. LOL!

  12. Rummy Reply

    January 8, 2014 at 4:40 am

    I know this post is late but I just happened acrossed it. I dont want to come off as racist but im highly against my sisters dating white. I really get annoyed when the sins of one condemn the whole. What I mean is when a sista cant find a good black man they turn to the white man. I never dated white dated sistas, ricans, dominicans & etc so basicaly women of color with different racial backgrounds. But as social media shows negative side of the black man more than the positive. I have three children I love them and their mother( a sista) to death. I covet my black goddess that I do it turns my stomach to see a white man with a black woman. For people who says that black men treat their goddesses like **** are only talking about a certain percentage. The same can be said for a white man I just feel like its unnatural basically wrong you can say I still see the world through the oppressed eyes of my ancestors. White men getting dirty looks from us brothers will never understand how we feel I wouldnt approve of my daughter dating a white man same with my son I wouldnt want him dating a white women. Food for thought the devil wears white dont get offended by it its the truth. Years of oppression and hate are still here to me a white man wit a black woman is like a white person feeling entitle to say ***** because they were raised around black people. Basically I feel white america is trying to breed out the black man by taking the black women. Brothers we really need to step up to bat stop with this bullshit thats been going on for so many years pushing the sistas into the arms of the white devils. I come from a happily married household and me and my childrens mother are planning that happy ever after ending as well as a black family. But enough of my rant call what u want but its what I feel.

    • Ashley Reply

      January 8, 2014 at 4:00 pm

      Not offended. There are plenty of good black men out there. I’m attracted to all races not just black and white. I’m just coincidently dating a white man. I’m just not going to limit myself to one type of man. I don’t care when I see a black man with any other race so essentially why should I care what you all think of me and who I date. I’m a live and let live type of person.

      Not trying to be rude in the least but I’d anyone is breeding out its white women with black men especially since those relationships are more predominate. I’m not what would be considered ‘a white black women’ nor do I look like one. I’m definitely not some ghetto hood rat. I was raised by both of my black parents who were married for 40 years and raised me judge the sin not the sinner.

      I respect your words and your right to speak then. I only wanted to inform you that I was not pushed away from my’brothas’ I walked freely and happily away to explore.

      • Rummy Reply

        January 8, 2014 at 6:22 pm

        Umm my issue is white men dating black women. would I care is any of my kids date hispanic asian native Americans or middle eastern men or women? No of course not as I said before I rather my children date people of color. Now if my kids brought home a white man or woman yes I would be highly upset but I would b have to bite the bullet to keep my children happy. My kids know how i feel bout black people dating white people, and as far as black men with white women they are too weak for a black women. They see their resistance to bend and break to their will so they go with the weaker vessel which is a white women. My brothers baby mom said our mother raised a hate monger for my beliefs …..lol. I just stick to my convictions I raised my children how my parents raised me “in the ghetto” as king which is our birthright so I raise my kids like that too. Which means I created a new generation of arrogant ******** lol j/k. As far as you saying u werent pushed let me rephrase it better a percentage of black women with white men prefer the white men because its a security blanket not too much pressure. They get sick of black mans bullshit true, some professional black women as I said find financially secured with a white man. The white man is a weak vessel than the black woman the attitude of a black women is the most powerful thing I ever seen in a women. They dont back down they wont run the black women is the matriarch of the family structure that has been torn a sunder not by only the black man but the white man period. Again I see it through my oppressed ebony eyes this isnt why do black men get angry over a mexican rican asian or etc wit a black women its why do black men get angry over white men with black women. Basically its the trail of tears all over again when the whie savages came over and took the indians land and killed off a majority of the indians that refused to leave. I’ll show you where im coming from everybody saw Roots and saw how the white man took and broke up the tribes tore families apart raped our ancestors mutilated them and eventually killed them. To me Roots is pg compared Mandingo I believe it is where they took the black men beat the beheaded then and casturated them to keep the population down on the plantations havent seen it in a while but imma end saying its unnatural unholy immoral disgusting and all together **** the white man wit a black woman period.

        • Ashley Reply

          January 8, 2014 at 6:32 pm

          Be that as it may. You still don’t get it though. I’m not with him for any other reason than he attracted me and our personalities go well together. Not because you think he’s weak and I’m strong. We just click it’s really that simple. But hey your entitled to your thoughts just like I’m entitled to mine. I’m not African I was not born in Africa so I won’t use that excuse to harbor hate. My ancestors had that right. I do have the right to fight for what I want and fight to keep my choices.

          I hold no grudge in my heart for no person, and the only judgement that’s matters is God’s period. Love you deuces.

          • Rummy

            January 8, 2014 at 10:24 pm

            And u dont get it Im not ya dad do u dont have to share ya feelings about ya so called man. Im not using the fact that our ancestors were oppressed as an excuse. Again “through my oppressed ebony eyes” and what the **** does being born in africa have to do with what the **** I just said? You actin like I’m trynna brainwash u into thinking one way. You nick pick at certain aspects of my comments instead of looking at it as a whole. I don’t care bout if ya personas click is just what black men and women feel about seeing there brothas n sistasnwit the devil. Let me break it down to be real ******* clear and you can comprehend my feelings toward the white race as a whole. I date any other race but white there shifty n sneaky they stab a knife in ya back soon as you turn ya ******* back on them. The reason why the status of the united States and majority of the world is ****** up is because of a white man. Thats just fa starters this **** is way deeper than oh I feel like she shouldnt date that white ma *****. Its on a whole nother level that you aint ready to or refuse to accept it. It will always be descriminated against like openly gay marriages so if you really want to comment on one of my post please read the full post before you decide to post and jot just nick pick. Trust im younga than alot of people think but I do know my **** and your rebuttals to my comments shows that you fall a lil short of the bar to even understand where im coming from. But I digress everybody has the free will to do what they want. As for the earlier part of my post reguarding africa you dont have to be african to understand that we are enemy. Again thee most endangered species on the face of the earth is the black men 50 percent of black men will go to jail for some petty bullshit then come home try to get a job can’t get a good then have to settle with making less than what they should get when they get a alright job. Then they have to put up with scrutiny from the bosses who is looking for a reason to fire someone. They get fired now they are getting a lil bit of bit unemployment not enough to feed a house hold. Now we’re in a new recession with a ever shrinking job pool then you have to compete with a white most of the time for a job. We know pete and jo are drinking buddies so you know your not gonna get that job so now your left wit fast food restaurants which pay minimum wage ****** health I dont think they get 401k plans unless your management. So all there is left to do is hustle which is very lucrative if you dont get caught. If you get caught they want you to make a deal if you dont deal they will try to slap you with the rico act because you may be part of the drug cartel then its back to prison. Then tax payers dollars go into building new prisons ie new plantations which is why we call it modern day slavery. Alot of black men put themselves into but **** alot of black men are wrongfully accused of crimes they never committed so they get locked up for half their lives leaving the children most of the time fatherless which leads to looking to the streets for a male guidance which then initiates a new cycle which what we call the ultimate genocide of the black man. This isnt from books or research all peronal experience that no white man can relate to thank you and good night.

          • Ashley

            January 8, 2014 at 10:25 pm

            Ok

          • Rummy

            January 8, 2014 at 10:37 pm

            I really dont mean to come off as an ******* jerk ***** or ********. Im just a real ma ***** that spits **** people dont want to hear or say

          • Ashley

            January 8, 2014 at 10:43 pm

            you haven’t said a word that I haven’t wanted to hear. I never disagreed with everything else that you said with the exception of the points that I felt where aimed at women and I see where your coming. from. As I stated earlier you have a right to say anything you want.

            These are words and well to be honest and I’m not saying this in a mean way but I just don’t care enough to get mad or offended about this particular topic. Life is about opinions and it is what it is. So it’s ok.

  13. Rummy Reply

    January 8, 2014 at 10:49 pm

    Im not trynna make anyone mad. If it was vice versa I’ll still say the same thing ya digg I feel like sugar coating wont make it taste sweeter knamean

  14. Neal Murray Reply

    January 18, 2014 at 4:29 am

    The racism and ignorance I have just read is beyond belief, especially from this buffoon Rummy. I was in an interracial relationship and was on the receiving end of hate by so called “people of color”. The reason for the hate is very simply an inferiority complex on the part of the hater. Those comfortable with themselves feel no anger. Thug culture and buying into it is part of what brings the black man down. One third of black men will end up in prison compared to about one in twenty whites and I don’t want to hear the excuse that it is because of racist law enforcement. With stats like that there is no wonder law enforcement is racist to blacks. You don’t hear about police being racist to Asians. Go figure. Rummy obviously feels inferior because of his fellow black man, even if he is an upstanding although racist citizen. Black men are to be pitied, not feared. If black women find white men to be a better prospect its pretty much the fault of the black man himself.

    • Rummy Reply

      January 21, 2014 at 5:35 am

      Lmao I’m a buffoon for spitting knowledge. Neal why are you even saying my name. White people are a disease to this earth period errything I said the white man did rape burn and pilage other races they think is inferior to them. And you wanna talk statistics why cant I drive my bmw down the street wit tints and a loud system. The justice system is aimed at the black man you stupid little ****. There are more reported police assaults on african American man than any other race. Why because we intimidate the white since day one. Our natural strength n our intimidating ebony eyes. If you think im a buffoon for spitting knowledge then you sir are an idiot. This is more than white man n black women this is the curse one the earth known as the white man so **** you and good night **** Murray

    • Amel Reply

      February 14, 2014 at 12:09 pm

      You hit it right on the nail. Finally someone who has enough ***** to say it like it is. I’m a mix woman who dates only white men. I date white men simply because they don’t have all the hang ups black men have. Sick of it, so I moved on, and yes ladies, the grass is greener on the other side.

  15. Don Reply

    January 19, 2014 at 2:48 pm

    I agree @Neal Murray. People who get mad at interracial dating have complexes.If you’re happy with yours,you shouldn’t be offended by what anyone else is choosing to do. So give me a break. Ya’ll know ya’ll go gaga for non black women so quit acting hurt. Black men aren’t capable of taking responsibility for their actions. Someone else is always to blame. Sigh I stop listening when black men speak.

    • Rummy Reply

      January 21, 2014 at 5:43 am

      Don I dont go gaga over other women but black. Blame people for what how society has branded us. I swear on my kids half yall old enough to be my parents but still dont understand the true history of white america and black America im done trynna paint on a laminated canvas. Knowledge is knowledge and I blame no one for my faults but when I get pulled over in my neighborhood because I look suspicious then I start blaming the whiteys for how they shaped the world to look at the black man . Smh

    • Amel Reply

      February 14, 2014 at 12:30 pm

      I don’t blame you, I stopped listening to them too.

  16. Gin Reply

    January 26, 2014 at 9:04 pm

    I love women of all colors and they love me. It’s not my fault I was born with blonde hair and blue eyes. I totally believe you’re a young man “Rummy”. Your ignorance is unfathonably deep and you sound very juvenile. White Devil? Give me a break. Your descendants will be light skinned. “Black” isn’t an endangered species. We’re all human. Black and white are only colors. One day, when we finally desegregate ourselves, we won’t be able to tell where one race ends and the next one begins. Truth. I pray you, Rummy, will find peace in this lifetime. Reply with what you want, but I won’t be back to read it. Peace!

  17. Neal Murray Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 1:47 am

    Rummy the justice system is aimed at criminals. It just so happens a disproportionate amount of criminals are black and therefore it follows there will be more police brutality aimed at blacks but I doubt you are smart enough to get that. You would rather believe the preposterous notion that white cops are framing hundreds of thousands of innocent blacks for crimes they didn’t commit. Give me a break. That’s what you are saying isn’t it. All those huge number of blacks in prison are innocent. Please.We are not morons. You are a pathetic racist who will accomplish nothing in life because all you aree interested in doing is blaming others for your own failings. Black men need to man up and accept responsibility instead of accepting handouts. And here is a tip, try playing your music at a level acceptable to others, don’t dress like a loser, don’t wear your pants around your ankles, smile and act friendly and you will be amazed because people will act the same to you. If you persist in crying about the “white devil” you will be left behind on handouts and I’ll be laughing at you as I’m hooking up with Sistas of quality, having kids and teaching them the difference between being black and being a *****.

  18. Rummy Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 2:06 am

    Wow you still responding to me son son im blessed its called ones own perception of the world then they manifest it into a opinion thatthey can share. But you wanna get tough on blogs Imma say this to you one time n one time only Neal I am very successful i own my own businesses and raise my children wit true knowledge. And disrespect me on lumping me with ****** that lay on there back n accept hand outs imma say it like this n leave this **** alone I lived a hustlas life and a thugs life without the cosmic karamic pay back. And imma put this on my kids if I knew where ya ***** *** lived I would have hands put on u period. Let reiterate that im not net thug gang banger none of those just a real a ******* ***** that came from the grimy bottom now sittin pretty but I do have resources so watch the disrespectful tone *****

  19. Neal Murray Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 3:26 am

    Rummy you worthless buffoon, did I read you right? You blame whitey for how they shaped the world to look at the back man. Your fellow black shaped the world that way for you. Young black men are 14 times more likely to commit murder than young white men. Black men made themselves suspicious with statistics like that. But no, in your eyes blacks can do no wrong. Obviously whitey is manipulating the world to be suspicious of young black men. When you blame others all the time you fail to look at yourselves. You will always be at the bottom because you love the status of being the victim. You always have the perfect excuse to not improve yourselves. Its too easy to pull the slavery card. Well I have news for you. You weren’t a slave, neither were your parents’ grandparents or great grand parents. It was mostly whites that died to put an end to slavery. And most of our families didn’t even own slaves. My family was in Ireland being persecuted by the English but do I blame my problems today on the English. No. But you don’t know what its like I hear you say. The cry of the loser. At this point I have very little else to say to you, because you sir are a **** Head.

    • Ashley Reply

      January 27, 2014 at 3:31 am

      Neal stop wasting your time. He is not worth the anger he’s causing.

    • Rummy Reply

      January 27, 2014 at 4:22 am

      Awww you gonna get the lynch mob on me you and billy bob fixing to emmit till me huh? Wow u called boy tsk tsk tsk you really must want to call me a ****** instead of boy or buffoon. Lmao u gonna burn a cross in my yard right smh. bruh stop with ya tough net bloggin then still try to sound tough when u gonna rat go on rat what I get a citation and light probation then I’ll find out where u be and beat the brakes off you for being a ***** that’s one scenerio the second one is you shut the **** up n go on bout ya life. The third is the same as the first but more brutal so pick ya poison

    • Amel Reply

      February 14, 2014 at 12:42 pm

      Neil, trust me, you are wasting your time and energy responding to this man. Black men will NEVER take responsibility for their own actions. They are stuck in a time that doesn’t exist anymore and will always blame everyone else for their actions because of something that is history. If they choose to hold on to the anger it’s their problem. I gave up on them because they gave up on themselves and on their own people. If it’s not the white man’s fault it’s the black woman ‘s fault. But NEVER, EVER their fault. So give up it’s not going to change.

  20. Neal Murray Reply

    January 27, 2014 at 3:32 am

    Rummy. You are a typical internet buffoon. Keep threatening BOY. You obviously don’t value your freedom.

  21. mark A Reply

    January 28, 2014 at 11:08 am

    Im a white male who has been happily married to a black female for 15 great years. My woman is the best wife any man could ever imagine. We have 3 awesome sons who are happy and make great grades in school. We have everything anyone could ever want outta life. I have provided for my wife and kids and tell them that I love them like everyday is the last day.Black men, I never opressed your race or anyone elses for that matter. Step up to the bat, you’re the ones with the double standards..it’s ok to date a white woman but not have a white man date your daughters. Pleeeease! My wife and I agree, it’s time to move on.Stop punishing people with your hatred from the past. And most of all, black women dont belong to you like property. As for me, Ill always love my African Queen.

  22. Rummy Reply

    February 14, 2014 at 2:44 pm

    Wow yall still talking lmao. As I said in my previous post your words hold no relevance to me ****. Ostracized someone for their opinions lmao. Neal u keep says saying buffoon u wanna call me a ****** huh buddy. Smh your money isnt long enough to let ya words affect me at the end of the day it is what it is. Im the bad guy real talk even though I spit knowledge I relish in the fact a white man fears me. Sold drugs yup, commited crimes I will never be prosecuted for yup, and do I give a **** about what weak willed black women and white crackers think????? Nope….. I do me spend yearly salary bullshitting around on vacations. The fact is this **** is hilarious

  23. Kat Reply

    February 14, 2014 at 5:26 pm

    I just came across this site today and read all of the comments. Personally, I believe everyone should be free to date and/or marry regardless to race or gender.

    I was surprise at the attacks on Rummy. Here you have a black man willing to be very honest and open with his opinion. Whether you agreed or disagreed with him it doesn’t make his views invalid. He didn’t come across as person that would walk the streets in protest or would hurt a interracial couple. There are many people who oppose interracial dating and that’s okay. Speaking as a Black American woman, some of Rummy points are very valid and I respect him for being honest in sharing.

    I noticed from reading a lot online that some White men are quick to say that Black men refuse to take ownership for their own actions and in some cases I agree, but the same can be said for some White men. White men have created a judicial system, laws, and a governing body that’s design with White privilege in mind. Some of Rummy’s claims can easily be researched and proven or simply by watching the news. Yet, Rummy is dismissed as a worthless buffoon. Maybe he would be more open minded if society was fair and balanced.

    Also, it’s hard to believe that a Black woman would be in a relationship with a white man and that man denies the existence of unfair laws and treatment of Black people, especially Black men in America.

    • Rummy Reply

      February 17, 2014 at 4:44 am

      Ok I went off on my last post. Thank you kat for atleast reading and ubderstanding some valid points I tried to kake out. But sometimes people do not want to accept the truth. Its funny how when someone doesn’t condone the actions of black women wit white men or vice gersa u are branded a racist. Its ashame that only one african american queen in this community sees where im coming from. **** its like I done ****** in yall rice crispys cause I don like a wm with a bw. Real talk n imma keep it 100 a black woman bringing a white man home will not be fully accepted but let a white woman bring a black man home……. that man would get more death than obama. Depends on what part of the country u in. But half these people act like imma attack u for being wit a black woman… smh kat I stopped trying to educate people on the judicial system. Real talk white people made coke, crack, meth, lsd, angel dust war on drugs line the politicians pockets. Every big drug bust made in the history of the us was corrupted. In of every drug bust they take a certain amount of days ugs as evidence then it suppose to be destroyed. They give the product to a new connect they then take cuts from the dealers. When a new election or promotion comes up they mysteriously take down the smaller organisations so if they dont have a lawyer they get a state appointed lawyer public defenders. Then after that case the pds pass on info to their cohorts cause again money makes the world go round. But the funniest this is they dont distribute this **** in their suburban gated communities. They distribute it through out the inter city neighborhoods knowing they can round up the sheeple. Basically white people got the world **** up im done educating people thank you Kat for seeing my perspectives

  24. Kat Reply

    February 17, 2014 at 12:04 pm

    Rummy, it’s new for me to comment online. I normally just read and keep it moving, but I felt compel to speak since a lot of what you said is true. For some people “ignorance is bliss” because it allow a person to escape the drama of the real world. I agree that there’s so much corruptions and greed in politicians, law enforcement agencies, corporations, and the wealthy. However, not all white people are the same. There were White people that aided Black people during slavery and stood with us during the civil rights movements. Today many White people are standing and fighting with us for equality for all. So I try not to group all people in the same category.

    Also, I understand why some Black women would be against your views on BW/WM relationships. Although your wife is Black, a small percentage of Black men (and growing) have been dating White women for years. So how is it fair that Black women should limit themselves to minority men only? Black women also deserve to be loved, cherished, respected by whoever is willing to love, provide, and protect them.

    As for drugs being distributed in our communities, we have to take some responsibility, especially Black men. I feel that we have a choice, but to often we take the easy route regardless to the end results. Quick money is more important than protecting our communities (of course, there are other factors). I moved out of the Black community because I was fed up with many of the slave mentalities. We do have a choice in our actions influencing our communities. I remember getting extremely upset seeing Black men driving very nice cars, with inflated egos, dressed extremely well with large sums of money in their pockets, but they were cancer. These men were cancer because they sold drugs destroying their own people and communities. So, just because the distributor maybe White doesn’t mean we have to take part in it. Sadly, some of these same selfish people are not willing to give back to the communities they helped to destroy.

    • Rummy Reply

      February 17, 2014 at 8:44 pm

      See I feel you kat I aint going to lie I was one of those men that destroyed my community. Keyword was and for black men chasing white women I feel the same as most black women. Some feel that a black women isnt good enough for them and I just feel that they cant handle a black women. Other times some black women are broken and push black men away but to hold a white woman over a black woman…. im like ***** ya mom is black. As for easy way out yeah we got choices but sometimes the bad choice is the only choice. Not everyone gonna get drafted or signed. I did what I had to do for my family. And for loving a black women brothers need to understand a black woman loves so hard. Im happy I have one of those broken hateful black women that loves me. All she needed was love and affection trust if I was allowed to I would love each and every black women with my whole soul and being and im not talking bout sexually.

      • Kat Reply

        February 18, 2014 at 3:03 am

        I’m smiling, your wife is a lucky woman. I wish the number of BM on YouTube bashing BW had your awareness.

        It’s been very enjoyable speaking with you and I wish you all the best.

  25. Nick Reply

    October 7, 2014 at 2:39 am

    Hey Rummy, you just a pretender! Talk a big game but ain’t **** I put my girls baby daddy in his place. You gonna learn one day that color doesn’t mean **** in a fight. I treat my woman like queen. No one disrespect her not even her punk **** baby daddy. I Fear no man you could be purple and I still step to you and put you in your place. Go ahead and think your skin color makes you bad *** you ignorant pretender!

  26. Nick Reply

    October 7, 2014 at 2:39 am

    Hey Rummy, you just a pretender! Talk a big game but ain’t **** I put my girls baby daddy in his place. You gonna learn one day that color doesn’t mean **** in a fight. I treat my woman like queen. No one disrespect her not even her punk **** baby daddy. I Fear no man you could be purple and I still step to you and put you in your place. Go ahead and think your skin color makes you bad *** you ignorant pretender!

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