I know it’s been said time and time again, from family, friends to co-workers that it’s hard to find a good partner because there are none out there! Even with the latest technology, the Internet, we still seem to be falling short in finding a compatible partner.
I’ve had conversations with a lot of women who complain about this dilemma, but in the same breath, they are frustrated about their boo “Jerome, Larry or Tyrone” living in their house not working, not fixing anything that’s broken, including hitting her upside the head, impregnating her every 10 months, but she consistently tolerates it. My question is, why? All you are doing is creating a “no good man”. If you are contributing to the problem, you can’t complain about it as well.
Women have all the power, we have the power to make the decision if we want to be pursued by that man or wait for the next one. It’s the man that should be doing the chasing, not the other way around. But somewhere along the lines, they seem to have relinquished their power in order to be “boo’ed up” with the wrong man or at least one that people visually classify as one. I know that there is a male shortage out there, and everybody wants someone. But do you have to lower your standards to be treated disrespectfully in order to receive an inkling of love?
Protect your finances, your integrity and your heart by being patient and observing a partner for a period of time before you move forward to the next level. There is no time period as to when you have to make a decision as to when you want to have a committed relationship. Communication is the key and patience is the door. Give a partner time to show you who they really are so you can make a positive decision if they are compatible with you, instead of rushing to be coupled up and have a negative outcome.
Love doesn’t hurt you intentionally. Love doesn’t disrespect you. Love doesn’t receive and not give. Love will support you, care for you and make you feel secure. You should always love yourself first in order to love someone else; because that will shield you from allowing someone to treat you badly. Then you won’t be contributing to the “no good man” pool.
Lorie Hardy is the author of “There Are No Good Men Because There Are No Good Women”. She has a passion to empower women and children in all aspects of life. She is a weekly guest on the “Straight Talk” internet show. She is a writer and director. Visit Lorie at www.facebook.com/empowerment4life , www.empowerment4life.com, or on twitter @empowermnt4life