Think your man is 100% supportive of the career advancements that you make or the promotions that you apply for? He may be a little less supportive than you think. A new study shows that many men want to see their wives or girlfriends fail every now and then when it comes to their careers and business ventures. It makes them feel a little bit better about themselves. When they hear that their partner has just gotten a huge raise, or a promotion, or gotten a better job offer, it makes them feel like a failure somehow. They need to be the ones who are getting all of the great offers for their careers and making the most money.
These feelings of self-doubt often come about when women show that they excel at something that their partner has previously failed at. For example if a couple is losing weight and the woman loses more than the man does he may feel that it reflects badly on him and his ego will take a blow. He may even feel threatened by her success.
The study performed at Florida University did a series of five experiments with 896 participants. During one of the experiments 32 American couples who were college students were asked to complete a test that would show their social intelligence through problem-solving. After they were done with the test they were told that their partner either had the highest or lowest score but what they were told was not true. While the participants would not admit to being affected by their partner’s scores a test that measured subconscious self-esteem showed that this was not the case. The men who had been told that their partners had done well on the test showed that they had lower self-esteem than the men who were told that their partners had lower scores.
Another interesting part of the study is that women do not feel threatened, nor is their self esteem negatively affected when their husbands or boyfriends perform better than them.