The Infuriating Reason Men Call Women Crazy

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downloadBy: Krystle Crossman

You hear it at bars all the time…men calling women crazy among other heinous words. When they are calling their ex, or their current girlfriend, crazy they aren’t talking about a mental health issue. They are just saying that she is crazy because she isn’t acting how he would like her to act. Automatically, in a man’s world, that means she is crazy and irrational. Some men do not realize how harmful these words really are however.

When a guy calls a woman crazy or hysterical, it is not because he thinks she has some kind of mental health disorder. It is because he thinks that she is doing something that he doesn’t like or blowing things out of proportion. By calling her these things he is basically writing off any feelings that she has as if they weren’t valid at all.

Dismissing a woman’s feelings or needs by calling her crazy is the way a man makes sure he takes no fault or responsibility for problems in the relationship or for a break up. It is his way of saying that she is not worth reasoning with and he had no other choice but to end the relationship. What is really happening most of the time is that she was trying to express her feelings about a situation and then getting more frustrated as he kept calling her irrational or saying that she was becoming overly defensive about things.

Eventually this behavior from men will have an effect on the woman. She will begin to doubt her own feelings and how she reacts to situations. It can cause harm to her self-esteem and any future relationships that she may have. So guys, don’t just write off your partners feelings by saying that she is “crazy” because you are negatively impacting her in a way that you may never even realize.

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  1. This article further argues that women are emotionally immature, insecure & irresponsible, no one “makes you angry” your responsible for your own emotions & reactions” we are not animals enslaved by instinct. A women states “I shot him because he was cheating on me & disrespecting me” women see as reasonable a man “I shot that other gang member because he was disrespecting me” (a sociopath), exact same action & motive but viewed differently why.

  2. Here is a idea …. If both sexes would stop and think before they speak. I read and hear some women continue to say things that would absolutely validate the thought she just might be 51/50. The phrase “I don’t need a man!” really shows the depth of either immaturity on insanity, I will let you choose. I have never heard a heterosexual man utter such an untruth toward women. So lets all speak carefully and start the healing today. Can we agree on that?

  3. Here we go when are women going to accept responsibility for their words and actions. When you frequently say irrational things or behave irrationally…I always say someone who is in their 40’s that has never been in a long term commitment probably is crazy

  4. If a man truly loves and cares for a woman, knowing that women get emotional, they wouldn’t resort to calling her crazy and whatnot. When the relationship is new and the woman gets upset about something. Her behavior is acceptable at that time. Once the man has been established with a particular woman, all that lovey-dovey goes out the window. If the relationship goes sour, then the same actions will repeat.
    If you truly value your woman, there wouldn’t be any of this name calling and not validating her feelings.
    Maybe some women are immature with their feelings but does that give the man a right to find reason to respond in a negative way? If a man has premature ejaculation, does that give a woman the right to curse him out and poke fun at him?
    If a woman is mature and has better control of her feelings, you better walk lightly. They’re not buying into all that ignoring her feelings. You will get a wake up call.

  5. BLAHBBLAHBLAH you must be crazy to. Irrational gets no service here. A woman’s every whim is her own trip. Speak to me like an Adult or just be quiet.

  6. But sometimes she is crazy!! Have ya ever thought about that? What if the bitch is really delusional and mentally challenged? What then? Have ya ever given thought to that real possibility?

    • Difference is men are aware of their craziness & don’t look to justify it because someone “made them Mad” or “done them wrong”

  7. I like what victor said. And the way he asked if we can agree on that is somehow funny. I think he’s a gentle man. Actually, the bottom line is that we all choose our words carefully and the centre will simply hold. Of course we’all need each other.

  8. WRONG! When I call a woman crazy it’s because I truly believe she needs psychological help. Too many women feel it’s cool to behave like 5 year olds whenever they don’t get their way. It’s neither acceptable nor sane for an adult to have a tantrum for any reason.

  9. IT AINT GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH DISREGARDING HER FEELINGS. BECAUSE AT THAT POINT HE ALREADY HAS DISREGARDED HER FEELINGS. I’VE CALLED A FEW WOMEN CRAZY AND THE LAST THING I WAS THINKING ABOUT WAS THEIR DAMN “FEELINGS”, BELIEVE ME. IT WAS BECAUSE I THOUGHT THE B!TCH WAS PSYCHO!…PERIOD!!!…AND I BELIEVE IN CALLING A SPADE A SPADE. IF A FEMALE IS GOING OFF FOR NO GOOD REASON, COO-COO IS THE FIRST THING THAT COMES TO MY MIND. NOT HER DAMN FEELINGS.

  10. I find that most men do not realize their actions, so when most women lose their temper men feel it’s uncalled for for repeated unwanted behavior. Also I have seen when a man called a woman crazy it is usually because he feels slighted for something he wants to do and can’t stand being told not to do it. This is where I find folks miss this point. Yes, a lot of women go off because she is immature, but I’m the same sense men are immature when they are not able to handle both of their needs without real communication. Without communication, men and women, cannot succeed in their relations. What is insulting is when folks feel they have automatically become a credentialed mental health professional because of someone’s frustrated outburst. And, yes, all we need is to talk to each other.

    • Regardless of anyone else actions your responsible for your own reactions & emotions, your the epitome of what we are talking about & holding someone else responsible for your reactions is the definition of “immaturity” & to believe otherwise one should be incarcerated for the greater. Society’s protection, because you sound as crazy as a “Chicken soup sandwich”

      • This is what I am saying about the point of this conversation on top of other things about communication. I agree no one makes anyone do anything; however things are done because of something or someone. Too many of you are taking this personal and pointing fingers. I spoke about what I have witnessed without making a blanket statement. There needs to be more mature communication without making personal attacks. Personal attacks show immaturity because one can’t participate in grown up talk and work it out.

        • I reiterate my original point, your stating that people are responsible for the actions but giving them that “but factor”, like children do, “yea I did it but they made me mad” as someone who as worked in law enforcement in Chicago, I’ve seen that “but factor” used to its extreme. As competent, responsible beings were responsible for our actions @ all times & there is no “but factor”, I’ve seen women smash someone’s car, stab or shoot the significant other or new women & completely hold the victims responsible & the “Black Women” in their surroundings support & encourage it

          • That explains it. Law enforcement personnel always believe there is no reason for breaking the rules/law no matter who takes responsibility for the action. Cops really don’t care why; without breaking the law, cops would have no jobs.

            Women are not exclusive to the “but” excuse factor nor are they the inventor of not taking responsibility for their actions.

            The point of all this is to have better communication on behalf of both parties. Without calling each other names.

  11. Sad, very very sad. I have experienced men being out of control, angry and upset as well. We just label it something different. Yes there are some women who probably are a little insane. But how men chose to “shut” down and NOT deal with issues vs most women at least try to work it out by verbalizing(even if it is yelling). But all women who are upset, frustrated and angry are not crazy. I think the word is over and misused and its a lazy way of expressing that maybe you should bare some responsibilities also!

  12. I feel like most ppl have never learned how to agree to disagree,express anger & disappointment in a mature manner.People respond irrationally because this is all they know and haven’t been taught any different. No reason to point fingers. Its not about fault,but personal development.

  13. latosha watson on

    My book called me carzy. I asked why r u with me if you feel that way. His response was that he’s crazy to. Hahaha

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