You hear it at bars all the time…men calling women crazy among other heinous words. When they are calling their ex, or their current girlfriend, crazy they aren’t talking about a mental health issue. They are just saying that she is crazy because she isn’t acting how he would like her to act. Automatically, in a man’s world, that means she is crazy and irrational. Some men do not realize how harmful these words really are however.
When a guy calls a woman crazy or hysterical, it is not because he thinks she has some kind of mental health disorder. It is because he thinks that she is doing something that he doesn’t like or blowing things out of proportion. By calling her these things he is basically writing off any feelings that she has as if they weren’t valid at all.
Dismissing a woman’s feelings or needs by calling her crazy is the way a man makes sure he takes no fault or responsibility for problems in the relationship or for a break up. It is his way of saying that she is not worth reasoning with and he had no other choice but to end the relationship. What is really happening most of the time is that she was trying to express her feelings about a situation and then getting more frustrated as he kept calling her irrational or saying that she was becoming overly defensive about things.
Eventually this behavior from men will have an effect on the woman. She will begin to doubt her own feelings and how she reacts to situations. It can cause harm to her self-esteem and any future relationships that she may have. So guys, don’t just write off your partners feelings by saying that she is “crazy” because you are negatively impacting her in a way that you may never even realize.