Women have this annoying little habit of bringing themselves down even when they have nothing to put themselves down for. This habit is comparing themselves to other people. This is one of the most damaging things that you can do to yourself and your self-esteem because you are trying to live up to someone else. Here are three reasons that you need to stop comparing yourself to others.
1. You can’t accomplish your goals if you are always comparing them to other people’s accomplishments. You are your own person and have different skills than others so do not look at what they have done and try to mirror that. Think about your goals and how you can apply your own skills to reach those goals. If you try and mirror someone else you could end up frustrated and disappointed because you are two different people.
2. Your sense of self is put in jeopardy. When you look at other people and compare your life with theirs, you often look at the people that you feel have a “better” life than you. This can be very damaging to your sense of self because you are making yourself feel like you are less of a person and have done less in your life than this other person. For example, when you try and compare yourself to a celebrity, obviously there are some very big differences that can leave you feeling inadequate. Even when comparing yourself to a coworker who is in a higher position than you it can end up taking your self-esteem down a few notches.
3. Most of the time you are comparing yourself to someone who isn’t always what they appear. When you look in a magazine and compare your body to the model in the ads, you are using false information to compare with. The model has make-up, perfect lighting, and most importantly for them, retouching. It is a fantasy that you are looking at. Instead, focus on yourself and reality.