When you enter into a relationship you want it to be strong and long-lasting. While this takes hard work from both your partner and yourself, it also takes a strong foundation to start with.
That foundation o a healthy relationship is you and how you view yourself as a person. Think about this: If you are insecure, intrusting, and view yourself as less of a person than you should due to past experiences, those are all cracks in your foundation. The more weight you add on, the larger the cracks become. When the weight is too much to bear, the foundation crumbles as well as everything built on it.
Everyone has struggles in their relationships, but if you don’t start with a strong foundation right away you will be more likely to have a failing relationship. When things don’t go as you planned, there are a few ways that it can be handled.
If you are insecure about the happenings in your life, these problems will seem larger than they really are. You will try to control forces that are beyond your control and when you don’t succeed you often feel worse in the end. If you are secure and know who you are you will be able to come up with a better solution for everyone involved. Be secure and know your strengths. This will help you through any complicated situation.
Don’t let little things shake you. Be mindful of your thoughts; don’t put yourself down all the time. It does not help your foundation or the relationships that you have. Repair the cracks little by little by taking the real you and bringing that personality out. Just because you have had bad past relationships does not mean that you are a bad person, or fat, or unworthy of someone’s time. They were just not the right person. Seal up all the cracks in your foundation and you will find that your next relationship will be much smoother. To quote RuPaul Charles, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the he!! are you gonna love somebody else?”