Infidelity happens all too often these days but it is not always what you may think. There are a lot of myths that roam around about cheating that lead people to believe that it is something that it isn’t. Here are three dangerous myths that may have you focusing on the wrong thing when it comes to infidelity:
1. Once someone cheats it is the end of the marriage: When someone cheats in a relationship there is no switch that can be flipped to turn off all of the emotions that are a part of the relationship. Just because one person cheated does not mean that the other person can just stop loving them and be okay with it. Many couples stick it out, talk it over, and come to an understanding about why it happened. These are the couples that will work on the marriage and do what they can to save it. Most of them come out stronger for it in the end.
2. If someone is having an affair that means there is something wrong in the marriage: Just because one partner cheats it doesn’t mean that they aren’t happy with their spouse. It could mean that they are looking for more variety, they are looking for something different, or just need a change. While this doesn’t justify cheating it also doesn’t mean that there is something wrong in the marriage. All marriages have issues and as a couple you work on them together. This does not automatically mean that someone is going to cheat because there are minor issues.
3. Someone has to go looking for the affair, they don’t just happen: Haven’t you ever met someone on the street or at the grocery store that you just had a connection with even if you weren’t looking for it? This can happen and there is nothing wrong with that. Once the line from faithful to cheater is crossed you can’t go back, but this doesn’t mean that you were actively seeking out the affair. You will meet people like this in life all the time and it is all a matter of how you deal with it. Not everyone that has an affair is out there looking for it.