Three Black Men Tell Iyanla Vanzant Why They Don’t Date Black Women


By Victor Trammell

The Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) has a division within The Huffington Post’s digital news platform called Huffpost OWN.

On this past Wednesday (September 21st), Huffpost OWN published a report on Iyanla Vanzant’s recent interviews which she conducted for her OWN-based television show Fix My Life. Lately, Vanzant has been on a mission to thoroughly dissect and shatter the myth of the so-called “angry black woman.”

To get a better understanding from a male perspective, Vanzant interviewed three black men from different walks of life. These black men all appeared before Vanzant to express why they no longer desire to date black women anymore. Below are brief profiles of the three men who appeared on Fix My Life with Iyanla Vanzant.

Bo- 28-year-old Business Owner


In his interview with Vanzant, Bo said that he no longer dates black women because of the prevalence of anger within them.

“Why are black women so angry?” he rhetorically asked Vanzant.

“Was your mother angry?” Vanzant quickly asked back.

“[My mother] had that anger inside of her, but she made sure that she didn’t pass it on to me,” Bo told Vanzant. “When it came to me and how she approached me and taught me about women, she said, ‘Don’t deal with this.,”‘ he continued.

Koro- 33-year-old Teacher 


In his Fix My Life interview, Koro told Vanzant that he has been practicing abstinence for the past three years. He also said that he refuses to date black women because they don’t act like they are into him.

“I’m a God-fearing man,” he told Vanzant.

“Why aren’t you in the church?” Vanzant asked Koro.

“I am in the church,” he responded.

Koro went on to explain that black women who are in the church don’t pay attention to him because he doesn’t have a pastor’s position of leadership or what Vanzant called “power.”

“If you don’t have a collar, they don’t want to talk to you,” Koro told Vanzant.

Michael-46-year-old Musician


This man told Vanzant that his dislike of black women is rooted in what he feels is a label of “weirdness” that they give him.

“I traveled a lot when I was a kid. Very talented, very gifted musically,” Michael told Vanzant.

“Because of that, when I came back to my neighborhood and I was dealing with certain black women, [they said,]‘You’re different. You talk funny. You dress funny. The music you listen to is funny,’” he continued.

Vanzant responded to Michael by talking about what she went through as a 13-year-old child in junior high school.

“When I went to junior high school, I got bussed from Ocean Hill-Brownsville to Flatbush, and they spit on me and called me a n****r,” Vanzant told Michael.

“My point is this: That don’t have nothing to do with who I am today,” she continued.

Vanzant’s next episode of Fix My Life airs this coming Saturday (September 24th) at 9:00 p.m. EST on OWN. You can watch more of Vanzant’s interview with the three men profiled in this article by clicking the highlighted source link below.







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