Turn Up The Heat on Your $exting With These Do’s and Don’ts


downloadBy: Isabella Carson

S*xting can be a fun way to break up your day and connect with your partner. There are some do’s and don’ts that can help you to make the texts far more fun without being too over the top or crossing a line.

1. Remind him of something that he did the last time that you were together that you really liked. This will not only let him know that you enjoyed what he was doing but it will get him to think about the last time that you were together.

2. Make sure that you start out slowly, don’t rush right in to the really dirty stuff. You want him to have a little anticipation of what’s to come. Start out by telling him that you really miss him and can’t wait until you get to see him next. Then slowly start moving in the direction of naughty texts.

3. Start to tease. Tell him a few of the things that you would like to do with him but don’t give all of the details. Hint at something s*xy that you are wearing at the moment or something that you are thinking about. This will get him revved up and ready to go.

4. When they are texting back make sure that you give them feedback so they know whether to keep the conversation going or not.

5. Get him really excited about the thought of coming home to you by indicating a few very specific things that you would like him to do to you or that you would like to do to him the second you are home.

6. Make sure that if you send photos you aren’t sending ones with your face. Even if they are of some of your most private body parts they are just that if they are leaked somehow. Your face and identity won’t be attached to any of them.

7. Taking photos can be fun but try to make them more suggestive than all-out nudes. These can be more tempting than straight on shots.

8. If you are in a new relationship keep it tame. Don’t start getting into the really dirty stuff too soon as you don’t want to rush the relationship along.



  1. It is beyond me to understand how $exting is beneficial for a Healthy Black Woman. Just because we live in a sex saturated society, where anything goes, does not mean we must degrade ourselves as well. Black women are aborting our babies at the tune of 1,400 per week. Black on Black murders have reached the level of one (1) per hour. And now, we want to imitate the animalistic qualities of our slave masters regarding sex as well.

    So, I tried to list some of the reasons I believe “sexting” is not wise for a Healthy Black Woman:

    1- Inviting unwanted pregnancies and STD’s.
    2- Sexual exploitation and seduction.
    3- Targeted kidnapping for the sex trade.
    4- Begin the drift into prostitution and porn.
    5- Depreciation of self-worth and self-respect.
    6- Old files can be used without permission for various purposes.
    7- Old files could be used for blackmail against you.
    8- Impact on future employers conducting background checks.
    9- Impact on future fiancees who conduct a background check.
    10- Finally, impact on your children when they see your “sexting” photos and videos.

    My dear beautiful Black sisters, descendants of the Queens of Africa, consider the long term consequences of putting yourself “out there” FOREVER.

    Many are called. Few are chosen. Shalom, family.

  2. Shayla Jenkins on

    I like this because I am trying to keep the spice in my relationship with my fiance and make it spontaneous too.

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