As we go through life, we get some bumps and bruises along the way. Sometimes we may suffer more psychological damage than physical damage. Here are some questions that people have about psychological damage that occurs through life and how to deal with it.
1. Rejection is awful, why does it hurt so much? When you are rejected, your body acts as if you were being hurt physically. The pathways in your brain that register physical pain are activated when you are rejected. During a study it was found that people who took Tylenol before a rejection felt less emotional pain than those who took a placebo.
2. If thinking about your feelings can be good for you, why is brooding bad? When you sit and reflect upon your feelings after an emotionally painful experience, you can look back and think about what it was that made it painful and assess how you handled the situation or draw positives from the experience. If you sit and brood however you are simply thinking about the negative feelings and bringing the pain back over and over again.
3. Can you prevent a failure from damaging your self-esteem? Yes, you can. Don’t look at it as a failure. Look at it as an opportunity to learn new ways to deal with hard situations. Try again after some planning!
4. Why do people still feel guilty after apologizing for hurting someone’s feelings? This is usually because their apology was not as heartfelt as it could be. Lingering guilt can be harmful to your emotions.
5. Why do people who give themselves positive affirmations every day still have such low self-esteem? This is because these affirmations can actually make things worse. If they don’t truly feel these affirmations, they will not believe them deep inside and make it more depressing. Instead they should use self-affirmations which are positive thoughts about the assets they believe that they have already.