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Wendy Williams: Why I Stayed After My Husband Cheated

wendy and hubbyBy Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

Wendy Williams is emerging as the new “Queen of Talk” with her talk show in which she regularly discusses other people’s “dirt”. Now the talk show diva is discussing her own relationship with her husband,Kevin Hunter. The couple have been married for 14 years.

As successful as Wendy is, right now, one would think that a cheating husband would be enough for her to kick him to the curb, like most celebrities tend to do. But Wendy decided to take a different route and stay with her husband in spite of finding out about his cheating.

In a recent interview with VLAD TV, Wendy shared that the affair that her husband had was 12 years ago, when she had just had her son and she says that, even though she realizes it sounds like a cliche, it has made their marriage stronger. She also says that she loves her husband and he loves her and they decided together that they would reveal the story. She shared the story in a 2001 autobiography.

Says Wendy,

“If you told me when I was twenty five years old or thirty years old that I would stay around for a cheater, I would have been like ‘you’s a lie.’ I’ve got way too much to offer a man to stick around for him cheating on me, you know? At that particular time I had my career in radio, I was making a great salary, I had vacation property of my very own and the world was my oyster, so I definitely thought I wasn’t staying around for some cheating. But I did and I don’t regret it.”

Wendy says that they addressed the issue head on. The funny part is that she went on to say that she thinks that anyone who cheats should never confess that they cheated to their partner because it only hurts them. She does however say that if you get caught (which is what happened to her husband), then it is best to just confess.

The other point that Wendy made was that when she found out her husband was cheating, she had just had her son, implying that maybe that was a very significant part of why she stayed.

The question I often get asked is if I think that a relationship can be healthy after cheating has taken place. My answer is, yes, but that does not apply to everyone. For some people, it will work, if they do the work it takes to restore their union and for yet others, they can forgive and forget but they choose not to put themselves in a position where something like that can happen again.

The best advice that I can give is that if you’re the one who was cheated on, whether you decide to stay or leave, forgive and forget either way.

Nomalanga helps Black women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , a former College Professor and the reigning Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s Facebook page or Follow her on Twitter  

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84 Responses to Wendy Williams: Why I Stayed After My Husband Cheated

  1. D.J. Reply

    June 14, 2013 at 5:29 pm

    Just move on you would be suprised who’s looking at you. Let them go and “Lets be friends”.

    • Redbone Reply

      May 19, 2014 at 10:43 am

      I refuse to do a cheater, its just real nasty where all is concerned. Some people are not looking at the big picture. Yuk Yuk…. filthy nasty!!! A shower or soak don’t clean away one d@mn thing!

  2. Eric Matterson Reply

    June 14, 2013 at 10:11 pm

    I always knew that she was insecure. that is why she always talks about others’ weaknesses and gossips. It is a way of pushing down others to make her feel more superior. That is why she has gotten all that plastic surgery. What if the real reason she is staying in the marriage is her own insecurity?

    • G.Wigg Reply

      June 15, 2013 at 4:15 am

      I think you have understood something so very true. She has to push others down to feel better about herself, but you know what? In the end…she will never be happy, but she might ruin a lot of lives and relationships on her way to try to feel better about herself, and that is just plain BAD :-(

    • connie johnson Reply

      August 13, 2013 at 2:54 am

      Why do she have to be insecure when a whole lot of people stay with their cheating mates? My man cheated on me before and I took him back it’s because I loved him and nobody is perfect show me 1 person that have made no mistakes in life

  3. Haile Reply

    June 14, 2013 at 10:23 pm

    It would so nice if one day sister Wendy came out in an Afro wig eh.And listen if you here all them guests say, How You Doing?

  4. Erica Reply

    June 14, 2013 at 10:38 pm

    It is a difficult decision to make when you have kids and get cheated on, you just have to do what is best for you and your family.

  5. Kim Reply

    June 14, 2013 at 11:49 pm

    I am so sorry but I would not care if I had several kids..2 dogs …4 cats and **** house mortgage.I WOULD BE GONE!I could ever forgive a cheater.To me that is not love.I don’t know how in the world him cheating on you would make any relationship stronger.The detestation would not allow me to ever trust his sorry **** again.Without trust there is nothing.

    • Hiroader2 Reply

      June 15, 2013 at 7:30 am

      What kinda B.S is this “Get caught confess, If not be quiet c.r.a.p.”… While she’s snitching broadcasting every & anybody’s business.. Wendell or Wendy has to many accessorised parts for her stuff to be good, .. Any woman witb “PAID” for body parts can’t be physically offering.. Why don’t she confess to that… He’d have to be man with demons to put with that kind of selfish insecurity..

      • Sitter Reply

        June 17, 2013 at 9:25 am

        TAKES ONE TO KNOW ONE~! GROW UP & GET A LIFE…..SCUMBAG! WENDY IS BEAUTIFUL!!!! AND YOU ARE JUST JEALOUS!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

  6. Tee Reply

    June 15, 2013 at 7:36 am

    Please, That Jamican intern from WBLS sued her husband like 6yrs ago for ****** harassment. They settle out of court. They’re public records…….. look it up!! New York, New York. My ppl let me read the public document. Smh….. So sad….. It was Wild!!

  7. Hiroader2 Reply

    June 15, 2013 at 7:40 am

    Liposuction, breast augmentation, plastic surgery, weaves, and “true love”… lol

    • Sitter Reply

      June 17, 2013 at 9:27 am

      JEALOUSY IS CRUEL AS THE GRAVE!!!

    • Ina Reply

      May 29, 2014 at 9:24 pm

      Don’t be so nasty. Wendy is alright and now she is shooting for the stars. Make that money.
      If you love someone than try to make it work. There are so many lonely sistas out here, by themselves because of unforgiving and pride. Mad at the world because they are bringing up kids all alone. We must stop and regroup and try to be “HAPPY”.

  8. Brigette Holman Reply

    June 15, 2013 at 8:36 am

    I commend you Wendy for sticking in there to make your marriage work. I was married just shy of a year and found out that my husband was cheating. But what do you do when your spouse lies to you, and on you so that the other woman doesn’t find out what he is really about? I had to forgive but it is very hard.

  9. Erica Reply

    June 15, 2013 at 8:46 am

    I love my man to death. he forgave me for cheating on him, so I would feel obligated to forgive him, but I just pray that it doesn’t come to that

    • NeNe Reply

      June 15, 2013 at 11:00 am

      If you really loved your man to death, then you would not have cheated. You don’t cheat on someone you profess to love.

      • Andrea Reply

        June 15, 2013 at 6:25 pm

        You can love someone and cheat who say you cannot love more than one person.

        • Jean Reply

          June 15, 2013 at 7:06 pm

          I agree!

  10. Tank Reply

    June 15, 2013 at 10:26 am

    Wendy or William like to put down blacks but put the whites on a cloud an call them ( friends in her mind ). She uses the word ( ghetto ) all the time but she snorkel,pull on her bra and brush her teeth with her fingers… Crackhead tendacies..

  11. rosemary davis Reply

    June 15, 2013 at 11:01 pm

    The only thing about staying is that the marriage is a like a crack plate no amout of glue can ever put it back the way it was you may still have the plate but the crack is still there but geunine and true love can cover a multitude of things be it infidelity or some other serious matter.So I applaude all of those who stay beyond the storm clouds and try too work things out.

  12. Maliki Reply

    June 17, 2013 at 10:21 pm

    WHAT ABOUT MARRIED WOMEN HAVING A BABY BY ANOTHER MAN. AIN’T NOBODY SAYING NOTHING ABOUT THAT.

    WHY DO YOU THINK SO MANY MILITARY MEN GO CRAZY WHEN THEY COME BACK FROM A TOUR OF DUTY OVER SEAS AND THEIR WIFE ARE GIRL FRIEND HAS HAD A BABY BY SOME SPINELESS COWARD!!!

    • Ina Reply

      May 29, 2014 at 9:28 pm

      That’s another show buddy.

  13. Ja Tawn Reply

    June 18, 2013 at 7:14 am

    Only timI think its all BS. She gossips about others to not put the spotlight on her hypocritical ***. He is taken care of. I would work it out too.

    I don’t believe that was the only time.

  14. patricia taylor Reply

    June 18, 2013 at 9:11 am

    my ex-husband carried on a secret affair for more than 7 yrs with his ex-wife..i felt so violated and hurt. HELLO???? i divorced him!!!
    Now he can cheat on the next woman…cheaters never change…they just get slicker…

    • Black mamba Reply

      August 12, 2013 at 7:35 pm

      @Patricia you ain’t lying I agree and the thing about the situation is you might forgive the person but you will never forget and things will never be the same. If it were me I would leave too because I think too much and I would always have the thought of his cheating *** in my head.

  15. blacjk jones Reply

    June 20, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    With so many BEAUTIFUL Human Beings on this plant—-cheating is inevitable—-better step up your game! smile!!!

  16. Lisa Taylor Reply

    July 29, 2013 at 4:23 pm

    I believe that if you really love someone… that Love covers a multitude of sins. You can get through it and live on. But you have to forgive and forget and work through the infidelity together. Those vows do mean what they say. Through richer or poorer, sickness and in health, till death do US part. Amen

  17. Paulette Reply

    August 12, 2013 at 5:31 pm

    I believe you have to keep lying to yourself to continue in a relationship where you’ve been cheated on. The saying “one a cheat is and will always be a cheat” is so true. If the relationship means anything to them, they will just cover their tracks better. And this goes for women alike, cheating women are at a all time high.

  18. Rolanda Reply

    August 12, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    I so loved reading everyone comments, well my husband cheated on me,he said he didnt sleep with anyone so he didn’t call it cheating, yes we married, and i trust in the Lord he said if he forgives us why not forgive others,so i did it was hard,but we got threw it,and now he dont want to loose me,cause he see that i walking by Gods word andnow im bring him closer. ..

    • misstracie Reply

      January 22, 2014 at 3:37 am

      My husband had an emotional affair with his ex from high school and I was devastated! Funny but I believe it would have hurt less if he would have just slept with her and moved on…. We had to work really hard to rebuild the trust in our relationship (which included couples counseling), and it taught us each about taking the relationship for granted. I don’t believe that all marriages are over just because infidelity has occurred, it depends on how much work the couple especially the guilty party is willing to put in!

  19. patrice Reply

    August 13, 2013 at 1:14 am

    I STAYED TOO BECAUSE WHEN I TRIED TO LEAVE IT FELT LIKE SOMEONE IWAS TEARING MY HEART APART WITH A KNIFE. NOW THAT HE IS DECEASED I AM GLAD THAT I STUCK IT OUT BECAUSE I LEARNED WHAT REAL LOVE WAS ALL ABOUT.

  20. Mrs. Brown Reply

    August 13, 2013 at 2:50 am

    VOWS are REAL people are just not strong enough to roll with them :-)

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  22. Gail Ware Reply

    October 25, 2013 at 5:58 pm

    Yes marriage is great but trust in The Lord and be judged by what is correct.

  23. iilse Reply

    December 28, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    my husband cheated on me with many women, i found out from one that he got her pregnant. so i divorced him and never looked back. i am now with a good man. they cheat once, they can do again and next time you will never know. best thing i did was walk away to find my true happiness.

  24. Dez Reply

    January 17, 2014 at 11:24 am

    I have always told myself that I would leave if he ever cheated. Now I have two kids and I want to leave but I fear brining another man into my kids lives. If I act upon my heart, I would leave. But if I think about my children, I stay. Its a sad situation.

  25. Marie howell Reply

    June 27, 2014 at 8:33 pm

    People can always say what they would or would not do.you don’t know what you would do of you was in that position. It’s easy to say what you would do if not in that situation. Don’t be too quick to judge. She might of stayed with him,but what distasteful thing have you done and is still doing.

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