Wendy Williams is emerging as the new “Queen of Talk” with her talk show in which she regularly discusses other people’s “dirt”. Now the talk show diva is discussing her own relationship with her husband,Kevin Hunter. The couple have been married for 14 years.
As successful as Wendy is, right now, one would think that a cheating husband would be enough for her to kick him to the curb, like most celebrities tend to do. But Wendy decided to take a different route and stay with her husband in spite of finding out about his cheating.
In a recent interview with VLAD TV, Wendy shared that the affair that her husband had was 12 years ago, when she had just had her son and she says that, even though she realizes it sounds like a cliche, it has made their marriage stronger. She also says that she loves her husband and he loves her and they decided together that they would reveal the story. She shared the story in a 2001 autobiography.
“If you told me when I was twenty five years old or thirty years old that I would stay around for a cheater, I would have been like ‘you’s a lie.’ I’ve got way too much to offer a man to stick around for him cheating on me, you know? At that particular time I had my career in radio, I was making a great salary, I had vacation property of my very own and the world was my oyster, so I definitely thought I wasn’t staying around for some cheating. But I did and I don’t regret it.”
Wendy says that they addressed the issue head on. The funny part is that she went on to say that she thinks that anyone who cheats should never confess that they cheated to their partner because it only hurts them. She does however say that if you get caught (which is what happened to her husband), then it is best to just confess.
The other point that Wendy made was that when she found out her husband was cheating, she had just had her son, implying that maybe that was a very significant part of why she stayed.
The question I often get asked is if I think that a relationship can be healthy after cheating has taken place. My answer is, yes, but that does not apply to everyone. For some people, it will work, if they do the work it takes to restore their union and for yet others, they can forgive and forget but they choose not to put themselves in a position where something like that can happen again.
The best advice that I can give is that if you’re the one who was cheated on, whether you decide to stay or leave, forgive and forget either way.
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