Recently, there have been a lot of conversations surrounding women delaying marriage , mostly to pursue their careers first before settling down. The conversation almost always includes discussions about a growing culture of “hook-ups” which some might say are inevitable because, let’s face it, not everyone wants to be “the 40 year old virgin” or wants to wait until marriage to have intimate relationships.
Even though “hook-ups”, which are a very general term for intimate relationships that do not require commitment, seem to be becoming more common, a new study says that most women still value an emotional connection with the person they are intimate with.
According to the Huffington Post, “A recent Durex survey of 2,000 men and women (all of whom were at least 25 years old) found that 87 percent of women reported that their “hottest s*x” was with a partner who they trusted and had a prior relationship with (a.k.a. not a random one-night stand with a stranger), reported Glamour. The vast majority of men (95 percent) also agreed that an emotional connection makes a s*xual experience more satisfying, and both genders said they cared more about satisfying their partner than themselves.”
This suggests that some of the concerns that have been voiced about the “deterioration of our society”, where everyone thinks having a series of hook-ups is the way to go, are actually unwarranted because most women (and men) are ultimately looking for loving, trusting and committed relationships with an emotional connection.
While it may seem that more and more women are getting comfortable with casual s*x, as are men, the study suggest that they still value emotional connection and commitment. The “hook-up” culture is undeniable, but maybe it is not replacing committed relationships, but is instead something one might consider passing through on their long road to ultimately getting in a more long term committed relationship.