If you are in a relationship with a man who is married or is in a committed relationship, you are considered a mistress. Before you get in too deep with this man, there are four questions that you should be asking yourself.
1. What are you looking for in a relationship? Do you want someone that you can bring home to your parents? Are you looking for someone that is in it for the long haul? Are you okay with sleeping with him and nothing else? If you are looking for a long-term relationship you are not looking in the right direction. If he is willing to cheat on his current partner, what makes you special enough that he won’t do it to you if he actually left her?
2. What is this affair giving to you? Does it make you feel powerful that he is willing to break his vows to his partner for you? Are you okay with the fact that he is cheating on someone? Ask yourself these questions and then see if maybe there is a relationship that you can be in that will not compromise integrity on your part.
3. Are you ready to be the bad person in all of this? When his partner finds out, you are going to be the bad person. You are going to be the one who is breaking up the marriage or relationship. You are the one who is dating a married man and causing his wife so much pain. If you cannot be prepared for the fallout, perhaps this is not the relationship for you.
4. Do you have any support from friends of family? You are going to need someone around in case you have a problem. If you do not have support for any problems that come up, they will build into a bigger problem and will eventually explode. You will also need someone there to support you if you walk away from the relationship and you are grieving.