There are many different misconceptions that fly around about therapy sessions. Therapist Megan Hale has come out to speak about ten things that they wish patients knew about therapy before their first appointment.
1. I am not here to psychoanalyze you. I am not going to say that I am going to have all of the answers as to why you are feeling the way you are because I don’t know that. What I do is listen and help you understand your feelings and find a better way to deal with them.
2. Just because you are in therapy does not mean that you are crazy and I am not thinking that you are either.
3. Express all of your feelings with me. I don’t care if you are angry, happy, sad, or indifferent. Let me know how you are feeling and I will be there to help you work through those feelings.
4. I am not going to tell you how to live your life. I want you to live as you wish to live, no how I want you to live. Do what you want and when you want. I am here to listen when there is trouble and to help you work out the feelings that you experience as you live life.
5. I am not an advice giving kind of person. This runs along the lines of not telling you how to live your life. I am simply here to help you process and understand.
6. If you don’t come in to therapy willing to put plans in motion and taking action for the things that you want I am not going to be able to help you.
7. You need to trust me and I need to earn that trust. It can be awkward speaking with a therapist in the first appointment. You need to be able to connect with me and I with you. If we can’t build that connection it’s okay to say you would like to see another therapist.
8. I expect that you are going to revert to your old ways every now and then and I will be here when you do. I am not going to judge you. You probably do enough of that yourself. Everyone makes mistakes and it takes a while to break bad habits.
9. I cannot fix your problems or fix your life. I can only help you to see things from a different perspective and hopefully find better solutions on your own.
10. You deserve to be happy and I am going to help you with realizing that. When you come into the office and expose past wounds I will help you patch them up so you can move on and be happy.