What We Can Learn From a 73-Year Marriage

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73 year marriageBy Staff Blogger

There are many “experts” out there giving advice about how to make a marriage work and last and while we understand that not only people who are married are capable of giving advice about marriage, we are quite certain that after 73 yearr of marriage, a couple should have plenty of advice about what it takes to make it last.

Undoubtedly, many men will be glad to hear that, after 73 years of marriage, Barbara Cooper shares that it is not realistic to think that a marriage can work if the couple does not understand the importance of making love.

In her book, “Fall in Love For Life; Inspiration from a 73 Year Marriage,” she says,

“I don’t understand couples who say they are too busy or too tired to sleep together. Unless they are building roads all day or running a multi-national corporation, I expect they have just lost sight of priorities. If you wish to stay connected and happy in your marriage, my advice to you is to never be too tired or too busy to feel love for your partner. When your life is nearly over, you will regret it if you look back and recall too many nights when you made excuses instead of making love.”

Another tip is to show your “sweetie” that they are the most important person in your life by always acknowledging them when they come into the room.
Says, Cooper,

“If you want your relationship to survive and to thrive, you will have to train yourself to focus most of your attention on the person you love. When your sweetheart comes into the room, whether it’s just from taking care of some chores in the garage or from a long day at work, your job is to put down whatever you’re doing, look him in the eye, and verbally express your delight at seeing him again. It’s really so little to ask, and delivers so much — to both of you.”

 

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  1. This is very good advice and those that those who are married and for those who are thinking about getting married should consider very important in order for the relationship to last.

  2. Great advice! My husband and I have been together for only 15 years and we practice making each other a priority when the other arrives home by getting up to greet the other with a hug and a kiss everyday. We don’t hold on to anger ever as it can ruin any type of relationship. I respect my husband and I have learned never to discuss our personal business with girlfriends. I only talk about the kind and sweet spirit he has and the loving and gracious individual he has proven to be to all he encounters. In turn they all love him and respect him as well. We have both worked very hard to trust each other in the beginning of our relationship by making very clear ground rules. I learned from a wise woman to pick my battles. Everything is not worth an argument or even a discussion. If I am really upset I will write him a letter expressing all of my anger, concerns, etc. However 9 times out of 10, he seldom gets that letter. After reading it a few times I figure out a better way to approach the matter, or I realize it’s not really worthy of a discussion. Last, I try not to assume my husband can read my mind just because we know each other so well. If I want something or want him to know something about me, I.E., a particular birthday gift, or a habit I have I simply tell him. It prevents alot of anxiety and guess work on his part.
    Marriage is not easy but is worth the work if you put love first and foremost and let love lead your heart and all that you do.

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