There are some people who are perfectly happy with being single. Then there are some people termed “boyfriend girls” who never seem to be single. As soon as they end one relationship they are right back in another one with a new person. Is this a bad thing? Not necessarily, but it can change who you are and how you view your relationships in the future.
Writer Rebecca Santiago tells her story of how after always have a boyfriend at one time or another through high school, she wanted to make the most out of being single when she was at college. She would go to parties with her single friends, hook up with guys, but not make anything serious out of it. She only made it four months and then found another boyfriend. She began to question her personality and who she was when she was with someone as opposed to when she was single.
She considers herself a “boyfriend girl” because she always feels the need to have one. But when she does have one it consumes her life. She says that she is a fairly independent person and is fine with doing things alone like going out to eat, but at the end of the day she has this all-consuming need to have someone around to answer her text messages, come over if she needs support, and to make her feel loved. All of this has left her feeling needy and clingy and yet she still is in relationships constantly.
She is currently in a relationship and says that she does not want to get out of it by any means but she also wonders if she would be better off single for a year or two. She wonders if she could fill the voids in her life by being single and finding things to do other than getting a new boyfried.