Many women like to identify themselves as feminists these days. They are independent and hard-working. They like to do things on their own, without help from a man. So then why are so many of these independent feminists still dating like everyone else?
The journal Gender & Society published a study that followed 38 women who were college grads and between the ages of 25 and 40. They looked at their love lives and looked at their histories with dating. They followed their relationship patterns starting at their first date and then all the way through to marriage. Almost every single one of those women said that they would like all responsibilities of the relationship to be equal such as bringing home money, caring for children, and household chores. When it came to dating however, they seemed to revert to a pretty conventional standpoint.
Almost all of the women that were surveyed said that the man should be the one to pay for the first few dates and he should be the one to determine where the relationship stood and where it was headed. So why do these women claim to be the independent feminists but then revert back to the dating norms that go all the way back to the 1920s? They say that it is because that is how dating is traditionally done. They also say that they use his willingness to pay for the first date to gauge how chivalrous he is and what kind of character he has. All in all this is not a bad thing, but there is also no reason that this needs to be a rule of dating. Come on ladies, break out the feminist in you and take control!