Any marriage or relationship counselor worth his or her salt will tell you that extreme competitiveness between partners in a romantic relationship kills the romance and will erode the relationship over time. One of the exceptions to this general rule is that, when it comes to sports and physical activities, there is a little room for a little competition!
Having your “lover” as your workout partner can motivate you to jump out of bed and, if either one of you thinks that you’re fitter than the other, it will push the other to perform better.
Instead of going out for a date where you sit and eat a plate of food and then maybe sit (again!) and watch a movie, you can plan dates that include a workout, like hiking, or indoor rock climbing, among others.
Marriage and relationship psychotherapist, Dr. Jane Greer, says,
“When a couple works out together, the actual exercise itself can physically and emotionally have a positive impact…Both partners come away with feelings of synchronicity, cooperative spirit and shared passion. Then you throw in some spicy endorphins and it can be a real power trip for the relationship.”
When you spend time at the gym together, you can turn your gym time into “us” time, which is great for busy couples who struggle to make time for the gym and each other. Instead of going for a boring walk alone, you can take the walk with you man and have great company. Also, your partner is likely to motivate you to still go on your walk on the days that you may have talked yourself out of it because you were feeling lazy.
The best part of working out with your spouse or partner is that you both reap the many benefits of working out, like relief from stress, better sleep and a sharper brain; all of which can only help you have a better relationship. Then, of course, there are the “bedroom benefits”…Regular exercise has been strongly linked to increase in the satisfaction level of “bedroom time” and also protects against erectile dysfunction, it also improves blood flow in a way that can help you more easily get in the mood.
Another benefit of working out with your ‘honey” is that if you have totally different workout routines, it will encourage both of you to try new things together. If one of you loves yoga, and the other loves running, you can each try the other’s work out. Who knows-you might actually like the new workout!