Until recently, it seemed that a large age gap between two people who were romantically involved could only exist if the man was the one who was older. He even had a name: “sugar daddy”. While some people were judgmental about such men, calling them names such as “dirt old man” and assuming the young woman had “daddy issues,” it was something that was generally accepted in society. Now, more and more, we are seeing women who feel like if older men can get romantically involved with much younger women, they too can get involved with younger men. The term that emerged as this stared to happen was “cougar,” referring to the older woman.
According to Lisa Lombardi, a contributor at the popular dating site, match.com, there are some good reasons why a woman should date a younger man:
1. They’re more fun, period.
They’ll take you to see bands that don’t go on until midnight and whisk you off on spur-of-the-moment road trips. (And since most of their buddies are still single, they also tend to know the latest entries onto the bar scene). “When I met my husband, who is 4 years younger, I was in my early 30s and guys my age were so set in their ways,” says Susan Stern, 41, of Scarsdale, NY. “What I loved about him was he was up for doing anything, on a moment’s notice—concerts, baseball games, theater.”
This seize-the-day mentality isn’t just about having fun, says Cara Halstead, 34, a single mom in Suffern, NY, whose fiancé, Christian, is 28. “Christian gets along great with my 7-year-old son because he is not just a father figure but a playmate. Silliness and playfulness beat seriousness any day,” she says. “It gets us through tough times as well.”
2. They love strong women.
You—fabulous woman that you are—probably have a groovy apartment, a fab wardrobe, a huge social network, and a kick-azz career. Your younger half may live in a shoebox, sleep on a mattress on the floor, and still be in unpaid-intern mode. But he’s totally fine with that—and that can be a huge relief. “The best thing about younger guys is they’re comfortable with independent women,” says Susan Lyon, of San Francisco, CA, who has dated several younger men and married a guy eight years her junior. “The men my age and older seem to be trying to wrap their head around how a women should be. The younger guys totally get the reality of women today—i.e., financially independent, having their own agenda, etc.”
3. They’re good in bed.
So, do boy toys live up to their rep in the sack? Most definitely, says Mary Jo Fay, 49, whose boyfriend José—a waiter she met in Mexico—is a decade younger than she is. “He has so much energy and passion,” she says. “Guys my age have often let themselves go physically, and that’s a turn-off.” Lisa Daily, author of Stop Getting Dumped!, agrees that this is a big part of the appeal of the boyish boyfriend. “Many women today crave a relationship with fewer complications and more s-x,” she says. “Younger guys can provide exactly that.”