Will Smith Says Marriage To Jada Has Had ”stormy days” and ”died”


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Actor and Hollywood leading man, Will Smith, says that his 17 year marriage to Jada Pinkett-Smith has had ”some stormy days” and ”died” multiple times and he is perfectly okay with that.

Talking to UK tabloid, The Sun, the father of three said,

 ”Whatever you have is gonna die and you are gonna have to rebirth something new. You have to be willing to ride the waves. ”There’s gonna be some flat days and some stormy days, and that has to be OK.”

Jada, who is the mother of his two younger children, 14 year old Willow and 16 year old Jaden, often shares how much she values her marriage and her family. (Will has an older son from a previous marriage). According to Mrs. Smith, she sees Will as so much more than a husband.

She said, much like many newly wed couples,

”We used to have all these rules, [but]as you go on in your relationship, you just get into a flow. Will, to me, encompasses everything. It’s almost as if calling him ‘my husband’ is too small of a word for what he means in my life… I think I had a very stuck idea of what a husband looks like, what a wife should be…Once I broke all of that, a whole new world opened for me and man, oh, man, I got to see him in all his glory. And so that’s what it’s evolved into. And I’m just ecstatic about it.”

The couple has had more than their fair share of divorce rumors and knowing what I know about marriage, they were likely going through a rough patch each time those rumors surfaced.

People who have not sustained marriage for a long time and have never really seen people love each other for a lifetime tend to mistake “stormy days” as Will calls it, for the end of a marriage. Much like a person who has lived though a storm  a person in an otherwise healthy and functional marriage knows that storms don’t last forever and after every storm, brighter days are ahead.

Nomalanga is a Life Balance Expert. Her speaking and coaching programs help busy women who struggle to balance Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making™.  She is an avid blogger and a sought after instructor and speaker.



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  2. THANK you Nomalanga for this pro marriage piece or at least a non anti marriage one which seems to proliferate other writers opinion pieces and blogospheres. Also, big ups to ‘Big Will’ for his mature and real portrayal of the institution and his successful perspective on how to deal with the let downs and undesirables associated with it.

  3. This article highlights a key ingredient that a lot of people do not have when they get married and that is determination to hang in there and make it thru the dark days together. A lot of us are so sensitive that we cannot go thru hardly anything difficult without changing lanes so to speak or discarding the relationship/marriage. Both men and women check out prematurely I think. I applaud this couple and this writer. Job well done.

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  5. I really love this brief article. It humanizes Will and Jada . I so appreciate them for keeping it real. Marriage does have its stormy days and sometimes you question whether to go on . Yet after all that hopefully you find the strength to diffuse the negative and work on the love that is still there. People hold them up as the ideal couple and yes I am guilty but I know in my heart of heart that they struggle like we all do. Yet it can’t be easy to go thru your lulls with people watching especially the haters just waiting on them to fail. Unfortunately there is that element and some of it comes from our own community. All I can say is keep your heads up and hang in there. Either way you shine as a couple but you still shine as individuals as well. If you guys don’t make it …you fought a good fight and that’s more than many people.

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