By: Isabella Carson
Brande Victorian has not had much luck in the love department. The Deputy Editor of Madame Noire says that she knows that this was in part due to her weight. Victorian knew that it was time to drop the extra weight that she had and get healthy. She wanted to do it for herself and not so that she could land a man, but it would have been a nice bonus. Over the course of 9 months she dropped an incredible 78 pounds. She looks and feels fantastic. The only problem is that she is still single. She doesn’t have men knocking down her door to get a date with her now that she is in better shape. She doesn’t have to fend the guys off with a stick when she goes out as so many people made it seem like she would have to.
Victorian is not letting her still-single status get to her. After all, that wasn’t why she lost the weight in the first place. She lost it for herself and no one else. She states that she still has another 55 pounds to go before she is at a healthy weight for her height and she is going to continue with what she has been doing to get those pounds to disappear. However it is still disappointing that she has dropped so much weight and yet still she has not found someone to connect with. She said that she had to stop looking at comments on blog posts that she had written because there were always comments that would fat-shame black women and state that no one was going to want them. It hurt too much to look at the comments because they made her believe that it was a true statement.
So now that she has had the time to assess her situation and look over the facts Victorian is beginning to think that maybe her weight wasn’t the problem at all. Maybe there was something else. If no one was even glancing at her now that she has lost the weight it must be something else right? She stated that she is going to continue focusing on herself and not on the men that are not looking her way and will lose the rest of the weight whether someone wants to date her or not.