By: Krystle Crossman
Women in the workplace have a tough time garnering the respect of their male counterparts. Unfortunately there are some habits that we are all guilty of having while we are at work that are bringing us down even more. If you do any of the following five things according to writer Mary Catherine McAnnally Scott, you should cut back or stop altogether.
1. Dressing inappropriately – We all like to be comfortable in what we wear to the office. Many times though what we are extremely comfortable in and what we should be wearing in a professional setting do not always go hand-in-hand. Think about the outfit that you are putting on in the morning and ask yourself if you should be wearing it to the office. Is it something that someone in a higher rank would wear? Is it something that may show a little too much skin if you bend the wrong way? Will your skirt creep up when you sit down? If you even have the slightest inkling that what you are wearing is not appropriate, find something better.
2. Saying sorry – Apologizing has its place and time. Many women tend to apologize when there really is no need to. One of the examples that Scott gives is apologizing for sending an email before stating what the request is about. She says that it is like we are softening the blow before asking for something even though we are perfectly within our rights to ask for it. Do you feel like it is inconvenient for you to be a presence in the office? If not, don’t say you are sorry when you have done nothing wrong or people will think you see yourself that way.
3. Personal chat – Co-workers like to talk to each other and get to know the people that they are working with. There is nothing wrong with this at all but in a more professional setting it is best not to divulge too much about your personal life. If someone asks you a question that you don’t feel like answering with a lot of detail simply give them a short and sweet answer and then ask them a question that is work related. This will let them know that you really aren’t up for talking about the subject without being rude.
4. “Just” – It is a word that is used by more women in professional settings than men. Scott says that it is a word that when used in a certain context in an email will act as a request for permission to ask something. By saying “just” in an email you are giving the person that you are sending a request to more authority than they should have because you are essentially asking them permission to make the request that you are making.
5. “To be honest” – Another phrase that Scott says women say too much is “to be honest” or “if I am being honest”. This may make people think that you haven’t been telling the truth at all any other time that you have spoken to them. If used enough these phrases can build a sense of mistrust between you and your co-workers.